Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And for those who think its hocus pocus, the psychology of it all is pretty much flawless.WhitePimp said:Abso****inglutely.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yes it works. I believe in it 100%. Look at sport as an example. Some sports players are not as good as others but they always seem to win. They are called lucky etc but nobody mentions their winning mentality. They visualise themselves winning and that makes them more determined.ChrizZ said:Does it work?
Examples, please.slaog said:Look at sport as an example. Some sports players are not as good as others but they always seem to win. They are called lucky etc but nobody mentions their winning mentality. They visualise themselves winning and that makes them more determined.
The examples are there for everybody to see. Take any sport and see who the top sports people are in that. They are at the top not by chance. All those people believed they could get to the top. They visualised themselves at the top, winning things.TyTe`EyEz said:Examples, please.
They are at the top for a number of reasons. For athletes at the level is partly genes, partly your environment and how you were raised, partly your coach, party your ambition. It's not just pure ambition. I could give it 110% and tha doesn't mean I'm going to be a top athlete. I just don't have the genetics for it.slaog said:The examples are there for everybody to see. Take any sport and see who the top sports people are in that. They are at the top not by chance. All those people believed they could get to the top. They visualised themselves at the top, winning things.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
speakeasy said:They are at the top for a number of reasons. For athletes at the level is partly genes, partly your environment and how you were raised, partly your coach, party your ambition. It's not just pure ambition. I could give it 110% and tha doesn't mean I'm going to be a top athlete. I just don't have the genetics for it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
An interesting article. The secret is a good introductio to the LOA but that is all. I think some people take things too literally and it's dangerous to be talking about curing cancer.speakeasy said:
No probTyTe`EyEz said:In my opinion, you're blowing smoke, slaog.
I don't want to belabor the point, since I thoroughly explained it here and here with academic citations, but there was no science in The Secret. Quantum physics does not support mind over matter, actually. While it's true the act of measuring something inherently can influence the properties of said measured thing, the mind plays no part. As Columbia University quantum physicist David Albert explains, the early 20th century saw a crisis in physics with the development of quantum physics, but the latter half of the century witnessed a resolution to the crisis and science is progressing back to clockwork mechanism.Slaog said:
It's much easier to understand the science behind [The Secret] if you see everything as energy. We are all energy. Everything physical is pure energy but it jusy appears physical to out senses. Atoms are just balls of energy and they are more then 99.99% empty. In quantum physics its proven that the mind can effect matter.
Well, hot and cold streaks are perfectly explained by random probability, regardless of someone's education and cognitive awareness of probability statistics. Every poker player knows some nights are full of hot hands and other nights are complete crap, regardless of one's beliefs. Ask "Jesus" Chris Ferguson, one of the top poker players in the world and who holds a PhD in mathematics, and he will laugh at any suggestion the winnings and losses at gambling -- of any sort -- are predicated upon belief except in the very limited context of persistence and risk aversion. Gambling in particular is designed so the house always wins, disparaging even the most confident and believing players, sooner or later, to lose everything. Over the past few decades horse racing has been evolving to be more probability-based than horse-based, thanks to improvements of training which marginalize the differences between horses, but nonetheless streaks are still explained by probability theory.I know a fella who started gambling a few years ago. He's not the brightest and he is thousands of Euro in [debt] now. The interesting thing about he is that when he first started gambling he started to win and kept winning for months. He was winning 10's of thousands of Euro. He bought a new car and everything. Another gambler I know said he couldn't understand how the guy was winning so much because he hadn't a clue of horses but everything thing he picked out was winning. The other guy said that he's end up losing everything because he was betting on everything he could.
Eventually after many months the winning run came to an end. He started to lose and now 2 or 3 years later is probably around 100,000e in debt. His luck ran out. Or was it luck. My belief is that when he first started gambling he believed and expected to win. He wasn't smart enough to know about odds etc so he attracted that winning run to his life.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.