"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I met this 22 year old, blond haired green eyed beauty an few months ago.

I followed the rules, did the convo, the kino, the holding hands...then...after giving her a ride home from work I decide it's time to get the kiss.

As she is starting to get out, I gently put my hand on her shoulder and pull her to me.

She hesitates ever so slightly, then moved towdards me.

I kiss her gently...she kisses back...gives a little tongue as well.

Then she gets out, drops her stuff, picks it up and goes inside.

When she calls later she says "That was a nice kiss...it was short, brief".

She makes an excuse to get off the phone and says she'll call later. She doesn't.

I know she'll call tomorrow...I'm thinking about 'missing' a few of her calls.

Did something happen?...

AZ
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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We'll find out tomorrow...
 
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Once she kissed back, she lost control, at least temporarily, so she's playing some games, to rationalize it in her head. My guess is that you had plenty of opportunities to kiss her before you dropped her off, and didn't go for it, so it might have been a slight surprise to her when you pulled the trigger.

Wait a few days. My guess is she doesn't call tomorrow. Call her in a few days, and give her $hit for not being able to afford her phone bill, etc.
 
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She called...twice...took me out to lunch.

She kept casualiy touching me, much more than before.

Things are working as they should I guess.

She asked me for a ride to work / home tomorrow (her car is not running great).

Time for another, longer kiss...

Gangster is right...I had other opportunities.

Thanks...great board!

AZ
 
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Nothing bad happened. You showed you were a man and interested but did not keep desperately pushing to wring everything you could at that moment till she had to push you away. You took away her game. You showed you could control yourself. She doesn't know what to do. Any IL or attraction that was there has been turned up and you've added mystery.

Keep doing what guys don't normally do at times guys don't normally do it. Keep taking two steps forward then one back. Stay in control of yourself.

Expect things could get tense but stick to your style and you will learn what it is to be like most of the women you desire. Let her see what it is to be an AFC.

You WILL learn something.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks guys...I owe this site and the advice contained here everything...

She called me yesterday talking about how horney she was. I replied "I thought you were a sexual camel" to which she responded, "Even a camel has to drink once in awhile".

I'm going to leave it hanging for awhile. I'm driving her to work again tomorrow...mayde I'll go for a little squeeze of something nice...
 
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