"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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...A broken heart.

Ran into a girl I hadn't seen in a month tonight and she noticed I had lost a ton of weight in my midsection. I had put some weight on this winter and was at 240 in February, and I hit 200 this week.

It honestly seems as though being satisfied in a relationship adds belly fat, and being inspired by a breakup burns fat - even if you don't change your routine.

Has anyone else noticed the correlation?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Actually, yes.
 

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I'm dissapointed in you bigneil. You sat there and tricked your money off on a stripper and then you claim you have a brokenheart. Wheres the confident bigneil that was here a couple months ago. Seems like you relied on girls for confidence when it really should come from inside.

Well if you have a "broken heart (depressed)" you won't consume as much food and it will definitely show. Best of luck to you playa. Get back on your feet.
 

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It happens. Just use that fuel to get in better shape.
 

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Beats having to diet.

Being in love can cause weight loss also. Some people eat when they're depressed, so they gain weight.
Pining over a woman though, that seems like a weight loss situation.

I wonder what the actual physical explanation for this is.
It must have something to do with hormones and/or neurotransmitters.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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bigneil said:
...A broken heart.

Ran into a girl I hadn't seen in a month tonight and she noticed I had lost a ton of weight in my midsection. I had put some weight on this winter and was at 240 in February, and I hit 200 this week.

It honestly seems as though being satisfied in a relationship adds belly fat, and being inspired by a breakup burns fat - even if you don't change your routine.

Has anyone else noticed the correlation?
You don't have a broken heart, you have a narcissistic injury.

But yes, you lose weight, beccause of the simple fact a lot of guys are less interested in food when they're depressed. Could also be that you're more anxious and thus use more energy. How tall are you? Because 240 is pretty damn huge.
 

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I find that when I have no woman and I feel like a rabid dog chasing pvssy its much more easier to work out hard and ignore pain and tireness.

Probably related to serotonine level in our brain, the opposite is true with food, I tend to be attracted more from junk food outside the pleasure of a womans leg.
 

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First, I was using poetic license for the "broken heart" as it went with "ripped abs". I meant single (and depressed).

Did you ever date a girl and not know how much she liked you until she didn't like you anymore?

@AlexDP I am 6'5" so 240 isn't that big.
 
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I don't think we can have it both ways. You either get the girl you like best (and have oneitis) or you settle for a girl who you don't love.
 
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I've noticed a tendency for women to get fatter when they have a man, they let themselves go pretty quickly.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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For me it's the dinners. Usually I skip dinner and do all my eating early. But when I have a woman I share at least a couple dinners a week with her just to have something to do and that's all it takes. Then there's more drinking, I also party alot more when I have a woman around. Sex usually leads to a little nap, so yeah total weight gain material there. I was in a 7 year LTR and got up to 230 now i'm down to 200 and I look totally different.
 

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Someone should develop some kind of ratio on a chart to show the fact that I firmly believe:

The fatter a woman gets with age the more physically unnattractive a guy it is she lets in her life.

For example in the case of a 5'2 to 5'4 girl
Girl weighs 115 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 10
Girl weighs 120 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 9
Girl weighs 125 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is an 8
Girl weighs 130 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 7
Girl weighs 135 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 6

In other words as a girl gains weight her standards lower. That is really deppressing.
 

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AlexDP said:
You don't have a broken heart, you have a narcissistic injury.

But yes, you lose weight, beccause of the simple fact a lot of guys are less interested in food when they're depressed. Could also be that you're more anxious and thus use more energy. How tall are you? Because 240 is pretty damn huge.
i used to be at 220, but now I'm at 180 and falling!

it is true what you say though a break - up dose start something.. after the pain period of it.
 

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Young Stallion said:
Someone should develop some kind of ratio on a chart to show the fact that I firmly believe:

The fatter a woman gets with age the more physically unnattractive a guy it is she lets in her life.

For example in the case of a 5'2 to 5'4 girl
Girl weighs 115 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 10
Girl weighs 120 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 9
Girl weighs 125 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is an 8
Girl weighs 130 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 7
Girl weighs 135 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 6

In other words as a girl gains weight her standards lower. That is really deppressing.
Women are the only things that the heavyer it gets, the easier is to pick it up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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