"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Key to Ripped Abs...

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...A broken heart.

Ran into a girl I hadn't seen in a month tonight and she noticed I had lost a ton of weight in my midsection. I had put some weight on this winter and was at 240 in February, and I hit 200 this week.

It honestly seems as though being satisfied in a relationship adds belly fat, and being inspired by a breakup burns fat - even if you don't change your routine.

Has anyone else noticed the correlation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Actually, yes.
 

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I'm dissapointed in you bigneil. You sat there and tricked your money off on a stripper and then you claim you have a brokenheart. Wheres the confident bigneil that was here a couple months ago. Seems like you relied on girls for confidence when it really should come from inside.

Well if you have a "broken heart (depressed)" you won't consume as much food and it will definitely show. Best of luck to you playa. Get back on your feet.
 

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It happens. Just use that fuel to get in better shape.
 

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Beats having to diet.

Being in love can cause weight loss also. Some people eat when they're depressed, so they gain weight.
Pining over a woman though, that seems like a weight loss situation.

I wonder what the actual physical explanation for this is.
It must have something to do with hormones and/or neurotransmitters.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bigneil said:
...A broken heart.

Ran into a girl I hadn't seen in a month tonight and she noticed I had lost a ton of weight in my midsection. I had put some weight on this winter and was at 240 in February, and I hit 200 this week.

It honestly seems as though being satisfied in a relationship adds belly fat, and being inspired by a breakup burns fat - even if you don't change your routine.

Has anyone else noticed the correlation?
You don't have a broken heart, you have a narcissistic injury.

But yes, you lose weight, beccause of the simple fact a lot of guys are less interested in food when they're depressed. Could also be that you're more anxious and thus use more energy. How tall are you? Because 240 is pretty damn huge.
 

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I find that when I have no woman and I feel like a rabid dog chasing pvssy its much more easier to work out hard and ignore pain and tireness.

Probably related to serotonine level in our brain, the opposite is true with food, I tend to be attracted more from junk food outside the pleasure of a womans leg.
 

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First, I was using poetic license for the "broken heart" as it went with "ripped abs". I meant single (and depressed).

Did you ever date a girl and not know how much she liked you until she didn't like you anymore?

@AlexDP I am 6'5" so 240 isn't that big.
 
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I don't think we can have it both ways. You either get the girl you like best (and have oneitis) or you settle for a girl who you don't love.
 
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I've noticed a tendency for women to get fatter when they have a man, they let themselves go pretty quickly.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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For me it's the dinners. Usually I skip dinner and do all my eating early. But when I have a woman I share at least a couple dinners a week with her just to have something to do and that's all it takes. Then there's more drinking, I also party alot more when I have a woman around. Sex usually leads to a little nap, so yeah total weight gain material there. I was in a 7 year LTR and got up to 230 now i'm down to 200 and I look totally different.
 

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Someone should develop some kind of ratio on a chart to show the fact that I firmly believe:

The fatter a woman gets with age the more physically unnattractive a guy it is she lets in her life.

For example in the case of a 5'2 to 5'4 girl
Girl weighs 115 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 10
Girl weighs 120 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 9
Girl weighs 125 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is an 8
Girl weighs 130 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 7
Girl weighs 135 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 6

In other words as a girl gains weight her standards lower. That is really deppressing.
 

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AlexDP said:
You don't have a broken heart, you have a narcissistic injury.

But yes, you lose weight, beccause of the simple fact a lot of guys are less interested in food when they're depressed. Could also be that you're more anxious and thus use more energy. How tall are you? Because 240 is pretty damn huge.
i used to be at 220, but now I'm at 180 and falling!

it is true what you say though a break - up dose start something.. after the pain period of it.
 

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Young Stallion said:
Someone should develop some kind of ratio on a chart to show the fact that I firmly believe:

The fatter a woman gets with age the more physically unnattractive a guy it is she lets in her life.

For example in the case of a 5'2 to 5'4 girl
Girl weighs 115 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 10
Girl weighs 120 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 9
Girl weighs 125 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is an 8
Girl weighs 130 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 7
Girl weighs 135 pounds she wont go for anything less than a guy who is a 6

In other words as a girl gains weight her standards lower. That is really deppressing.
Women are the only things that the heavyer it gets, the easier is to pick it up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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