Dimebag_Darrell
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so if I'm at a date with a girl I look in to her eyes and do for the kiss, that attracts her because I'm taking the initiative and her as a girl is to submit?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
THE key is masculinity!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
guitaronfire411
Senior Don Juan
Go for the kiss regardless of what the hell she thinks. Just use a bit of common sense as to when you should do it.
Stop the needless questions. Go with the flow.
Stop the needless questions. Go with the flow.
guitaronfire411
Senior Don Juan
It depends. If the person is obviously testing your mettle infront of your friends, that's not a great time to go berserk. If you go along and provide extra humour to the joke, then it comes across as superior and confident:
ie (real example)
me: Hey ***, where's your washroom?
other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.
me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!
Deflecting someone else's joke is better than believing every jab is for the heart.
ie (real example)
me: Hey ***, where's your washroom?
other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.
me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!
Deflecting someone else's joke is better than believing every jab is for the heart.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't know if I agree but i see what your getting at. It doesn't having to do with taking jokes personally more along the lines of not encouaging jokes about yourself for the entertainment of others. I think there is a thin line between deflecting the joke and encouaging jokes on yourself.
other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.
me: naw i wouldn't break up that sacred relations between you and your pu$$y. (thats jabing back)
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me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!
Kinda continues the joke premise that your foolish enough too use the kitty litter. But i know what your getting at keep it light and social instead of trying to be top dog all night.
other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.
me: naw i wouldn't break up that sacred relations between you and your pu$$y. (thats jabing back)
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me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!
Kinda continues the joke premise that your foolish enough too use the kitty litter. But i know what your getting at keep it light and social instead of trying to be top dog all night.
I have a question.
I know this one guy, lets call him Ahmed. He's pretty much the 'macho man' you described. He wieght trains (skinny as hell though, no idea why) he likes to punch walls to show off his anger, he loves hanging up on you on the phone to show that 'he doesn't give a **** what you think', he loves threatening people, saying he'll kick their ass if they do something he doesn't like, even though most people he knows could smack him around with one arm. He's just really aggressive, a real *******, and has that 'I don't give a ****' attitude, everything he does he does it for the sake of showing off, and everyone knows he does them only to act macho. He gets girls, sure, but he's a complete ass and most of his friends recognize this.
To become this 'Natural Man' as you say, do men have to sacrifice their friendships with men? Or is this guy doing something wrong with the macho attitude?
I know this one guy, lets call him Ahmed. He's pretty much the 'macho man' you described. He wieght trains (skinny as hell though, no idea why) he likes to punch walls to show off his anger, he loves hanging up on you on the phone to show that 'he doesn't give a **** what you think', he loves threatening people, saying he'll kick their ass if they do something he doesn't like, even though most people he knows could smack him around with one arm. He's just really aggressive, a real *******, and has that 'I don't give a ****' attitude, everything he does he does it for the sake of showing off, and everyone knows he does them only to act macho. He gets girls, sure, but he's a complete ass and most of his friends recognize this.
To become this 'Natural Man' as you say, do men have to sacrifice their friendships with men? Or is this guy doing something wrong with the macho attitude?
shrewd
Don Juan
Great post, i look forward to putting these theories into use.
Too many of those examples apply to me...
Too many of those examples apply to me...
Jippii
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Suckaazzclown
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this post is tight. ****. This website is tight!
I love Hyori Lee
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Great post.
Is the original writer still around?
Is the original writer still around?
Super_geek
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Define masculine with zero ambiguity!!!!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Instinctive
Don Juan
And that's including relationships!Exp said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.