"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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so if I'm at a date with a girl I look in to her eyes and do for the kiss, that attracts her because I'm taking the initiative and her as a girl is to submit?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Go for the kiss regardless of what the hell she thinks. Just use a bit of common sense as to when you should do it.

Stop the needless questions. Go with the flow.
 

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*Takes notes*
 

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2: You don't giggle or even crack a smile when someone makes a joke at your expense, they don’t like that? TOO bad, you are MALE; you can and will compete for respect.
If i could go back in time and punch myself in the face for smiling and laughing along I would.
 

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It depends. If the person is obviously testing your mettle infront of your friends, that's not a great time to go berserk. If you go along and provide extra humour to the joke, then it comes across as superior and confident:

ie (real example)

me: Hey ***, where's your washroom?

other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.

me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!

Deflecting someone else's joke is better than believing every jab is for the heart.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't know if I agree but i see what your getting at. It doesn't having to do with taking jokes personally more along the lines of not encouaging jokes about yourself for the entertainment of others. I think there is a thin line between deflecting the joke and encouaging jokes on yourself.

other guy: It's at the very end of the hallway. Just make sure you don't use the kitty litter box.

me: naw i wouldn't break up that sacred relations between you and your pu$$y. (thats jabing back)

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me: (walking away) Oh man.. that was the only reason why I came here!

Kinda continues the joke premise that your foolish enough too use the kitty litter. But i know what your getting at keep it light and social instead of trying to be top dog all night.
 

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I have a question.
I know this one guy, lets call him Ahmed. He's pretty much the 'macho man' you described. He wieght trains (skinny as hell though, no idea why) he likes to punch walls to show off his anger, he loves hanging up on you on the phone to show that 'he doesn't give a **** what you think', he loves threatening people, saying he'll kick their ass if they do something he doesn't like, even though most people he knows could smack him around with one arm. He's just really aggressive, a real *******, and has that 'I don't give a ****' attitude, everything he does he does it for the sake of showing off, and everyone knows he does them only to act macho. He gets girls, sure, but he's a complete ass and most of his friends recognize this.

To become this 'Natural Man' as you say, do men have to sacrifice their friendships with men? Or is this guy doing something wrong with the macho attitude?
 

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Great post, i look forward to putting these theories into use.

Too many of those examples apply to me...:mad:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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this post is tight. ****. This website is tight!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gunwitch. I hail you man, much respect on the post.

This needs to be archived in my honest opinion, and for God's sakes is there any way we can make this mandatory reading for people new to this site?
 

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Some nice points there. I suggest everyone reads The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida.
 

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ya know I know this guy may of got laid more then any of us, but 100 - 150 in 14 years doesn' seem like a lot to me.
 

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Not a lot? Are u kidding me? That's more than 1 girl EVERY month of those 14 years average. That's definitely more than what most will ever get in their lifetime.
And that's including relationships!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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