"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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...took the plunge.

I'm engaged.

Great girl. The best girl I've ever known (and I've known quite a few). I asked her to marry me with a Taco Bell hot sauce packet:

Too cool for school.

Went and bought her the ring 20 minutes later. I know for sure I wouldn't have the mental acumen to have found such an amazing woman had it not been for SoSuave.

We're going to enjoy our engagement and not rush a wedding. It'll happen when it's right for us both.

I'll keep you all updated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wait what ever happened to that guy?!

KarmaSutra said:
I will never be married again. I know this because it's something I've already reconciled and dealt with. I've weighed the pro's and con's and it's not even close to being balanced. The demand for us Mature Men is so great we have the power to appreciate and exercise all of those options without recourse from women who want to accomplish their own Disney-esque agenda.
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Haha! Congrats KarmaSutra!

Show her what being married to a MAN is like!
 
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DJDamage said:
Wait what ever happened to that guy?!
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Haha that's hilarious DJDamage, how the hell did you pull that up so quickly?

zuhaha :crackup:

Congrats Big Man !
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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One minute silence for the Fallen Komrade.

Tell us more.

Congrats!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Congratulations, Karma.



Cheers!
 
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Where is the real Karma and what have you done with him?
 
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I'm the same bastard today I was 2 days ago.

Putting a ring on her finger hasn't changed who either of us are. It's merely served to announce our mutual exclusivity to each other. I made it a point to try and find something which would assure me that she's lumped in with the rest.

That day hasn't come. Nothing but complete respect for me as a positive masculine figure, as her lover, as her confidante, and as her long-term mate has manifest.

It dawned on me that if anything was going to fvck this up it would be my childish critique of her machinations; my pin-pricking her every action is what screws up relationships. She knows what my goals and aspirations are, I know, and absolutely appreciate, her own. We respect each others' space and boundaries.

Without words.

The best thing I can hope is that every one of you fella's find your own El Dorado, as we've been able to.
 
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KarmaSutra said:
...took the plunge.

I'm engaged.

Great girl. The best girl I've ever known (and I've known quite a few). I asked her to marry me with a Taco Bell hot sauce packet:

Too cool for school.

Went and bought her the ring 20 minutes later. I know for sure I wouldn't have the mental acumen to have found such an amazing woman had it not been for SoSuave.

We're going to enjoy our engagement and not rush a wedding. It'll happen when it's right for us both.

I'll keep you all updated.
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Congrats! That is great news!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJDamage said:
Well how did he grow up?!

The old Karma seemed like a grown up to me.

Congrats man.
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Brother Damage, this is a valid perspective. I made it a point to view commitment to a single woman as detriment to a "man's" character.

What I've come to realize is most of us men are Indiana Jones searching for the elusive Holy Grail; a good woman with her head on right.

I'm extremely fortunate to have helped cultivate a true partnership with a woman who, not only compliments my masculinity, she makes me a better man. I'm more aware of people's perceptions in a given situation (I used to care only what my two peepers witnessed). I have a deeper spiritual connection with her than ANY woman I've ever known.

Will it last forever and a day? Who knows. I know things run their course. If the day comes that we've exhausted our give-a-damn for each other, we'll pursue other avenues of growth with other people.

The best compliment I can say about my soon-to-be is she has no want to change me or fit me into a pre-formed mold.
 
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Congrats man I am happy for you
 
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KarmaSutra said:
I'm extremely fortunate to have helped cultivate a true partnership with a woman who, not only compliments my masculinity, she makes me a better man. I'm more aware of people's perceptions in a given situation (I used to care only what my two peepers witnessed). I have a deeper spiritual connection with her than ANY woman I've ever known.

Will it last forever and a day? Who knows. I know things run their course. If the day comes that we've exhausted our give-a-damn for each other, we'll pursue other avenues of growth with other people.

The best compliment I can say about my soon-to-be is she has no want to change me or fit me into a pre-formed mold.
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That's good to hear Karma, however from a personal interest I am curious to know about what was the trigger or tipping point that made you sit down with your thoughts and really think about taking the plunge for the second time in your life:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XO2PEfO8wmU&feature=related

Was she prodding or hinting to you that she wants to get married or else there would be a good chance that she would walk away?
 
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KarmaSutra said:
I asked her to marry me with a Taco Bell hot sauce packet:

Too cool for school.
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I myself will try to avoid marriage as long as I can (and if I have to [taxes, benefits, etc.], I will make sure to have a extremely tight pre-nup) but I wish you luck.

She seems to at least have a great sense of humor! :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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