The "Just Got Dumped" GUIDE

[adam225]

Good, good - just don't break it what ever you do. Keep strong minded . The ball is now completely in your court. Don't let it move from there.

 

[flacss7410]

And what to do if if the dumping was for another guy. Do all the same rules apply? Im currently in this situation, dump was a wk ago..she text me to see how I was doing Mon when she supposedly with him..i didnt reply..

 

[adam225]

Yeah. Just ignore her. She must know that you don't give a sh1t about her or you have lost the game.

 

[flacss7410]

and continue doing this if i want her back...?
I have been told that eventually she is going to regret her decision and come crawling back..
my friend..which is friends with her said their just in ther puppy love stage that eventually the true colors of each will come out that our long great history will weigh out and she will be back that I will know for fact she wants me back and its not a game anymore..

 

[Bacious]

I don't quite understand what the goal of this thread is. If you vehemently stress that you should not start a relationship with your ex again then what is it you're trying to achieve here? An ego trip to get you over her? I would say that you shouldn't actually be giving a damn if she gets anxious or regretful because NC is about you and not her!

I think the problem arises from the fact that the best thing to get a girl back is to go NC and also the best thing to do to get over a girl is to go NC. You end up with a blur of people thinking they fall into the category of self-improvement when really they are just fooling themselves because they are desperate to hear from her.

It's a double edged sword because for every pain NC causes her it's likely causing you the same - you just bank on the fact that you're a stronger person than she is.

It's an interesting topic because immediately after a break-up there is no such thing as inaction. Not texting her or messaging her is as much a conscious choice as talking to her would be because communication is binary, either it's happening or it's not.

 

[adam225]

and continue doing this if i want her back...?
I have been told that eventually she is going to regret her decision and come crawling back..
my friend..which is friends with her said their just in ther puppy love stage that eventually the true colors of each will come out that our long great history will weigh out and she will be back that I will know for fact she wants me back and its not a game anymore..

Do you really want her back ? You deserve better than this. She is a worthless piece of sh1t. If she wasn't then she'd be still with you.... Hit her where it hurts. NO SECOND CHANCE.

 

[lostbrick]

so I followed this guide so far, its been nearly two weeks.. she had hooked her best friend up with mine before the break up. the other night when her best friend is at our place, I have a girl come by and pick me up and take me to a friend's house for a couple of hours and get dropped off later as if I went out. going she would blow up my phone like she did a few months ago when I did the same. it kind of back fired and the reaction I got was her friend tells mine that my ex wants to go on a double date with them. he asks with who and she says I can't tell you who her date is cause you'll tell him. now my anxiety is through the roof and I want to go confront her and flip out. I'm going to ignore it in hopes that my lack of reaction will push her anxiety through the roof instead of giving her the reaction she wants. am I being stupid? is it time to stop and explain the truth I'm my actions before anything stupid happens out of vengeance? or let it sink in more? she should know better than to even think he would be cool with it.

 

[adam225]

You have broken up bro... It's over. You need to focus on moving away from her. To do this you need to cut all contact and get back on your feet enjoying life. From now - just ignore her and focus on her bad points and why you shouldn't get back with her.

Good luck

 

[ositosucio]

Great post!

This is exactly how I just lost my gf to her ex. I took her away from him
Because she wasn't happy but now I'm guessing this guy read this post lol

He did exactly that, even probably faked a relationship and pictures to drive
My girlfriend nuts. I have no doubt in my mind that she was played just like this.
This post. Otherwise she wouldn't have left him. She had made her choice before.

So would this work again on her to get her back??

 

[Dadude548]

I wish I had known of this thread right after my break up. At least I haven't begged her to take me back.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Great post!

This is exactly how I just lost my gf to her ex. I took her away from him
Because she wasn't happy but now I'm guessing this guy read this post lol

He did exactly that, even probably faked a relationship and pictures to drive
My girlfriend nuts. I have no doubt in my mind that she was played just like this.
This post. Otherwise she wouldn't have left him. She had made her choice before.

So would this work again on her to get her back??

I wish I had known of this thread right after my break up. At least I haven't begged her to take me back.

To Both of you guys. I'm sorry to inform you. But you were the rebound guys!

And there is one thing about being the rebound.
It's crazy, it's passionate, it's sexual... AND IT IS FAST!!!

So no. Don't you ever fall for a girl after a breakup. You can have a relationship with one, but don't fall for her. Because she will either get back with her ex, or she will move onto the next one (Another dude, or being single for a while)

And in a personal note. I also begged. And now my Ex is completelly moved on. So yeah. It hurts, I regret it, but it is life.
Too bad I have not see this posts before the breakup, or at least right after it. But guess what? We are all young, and we all will love again.

The good thing is that in the next time, we will know how to handle our sh*t!

 

[AriMamba]

**** man I wish I remembered this. But is too late now I made a fool out of myself. I completely forgot about sosuave, this was the girl I first slept with. It didn't feel like that though I felt like I known her forever and could talk to her about anything. But it was long distance. And then she ignores me and deletes a comment I left on her IG.

but she never told me anything that it was over so I was pissed and sadddened. But after reading this I feel 10 times better. Can't wait to get back in the game

 

[GotED?]

Very interesting thread - I will give my own input and recent personal experience.

I dated a Persian Princess (acts like one too! LOL) a few weeks ago, we were on about 4 dates but the last couple of dates lasted like 10-14hrs long. There was immense amount of sexual tension and attraction between me and her, and we got along really well except for occasional bursts of her b!tchness showing. I was about to take a 2 week business trip overseas back to the U.S. - I played my game and acted like I wasn't really into her all that much (the truth was, I had my doubts because she has signs of a spoiled Princess syndrome).

So I was leaning toward calling it quits with her because she was giving me sh!t test such as she was still hurting from the guy she last dated for 2 months (you phucken kidding me, 2 months and hurting now? LOL....). However she proposed that she didn't want to see any other men while I was on my business trip, and wanted to be exclusive. I figured well, that's a sign of HIGH INTEREST if any, I suppose she can string me along a bit more and I will see how she performs.

So she was blowing hot the first 36 hrs after I was gone, saying she 'missed me' for the very first time. Then a few days later, she was blowing cold as I tried to stay in touch with her every other day briefly. I got sick of her blowing hot & cold, and asked her what is up with that - she then said she was still 'hurting' from her last guy, and that she's too busy with life and didn't want a boyfriend (WTF then WHY did she want to be exclusive?).

This is serious phucked up Princess Hamster on the loose, and I was about to exterminate this public nuisance. I told her she is wasting my time and shook the very ground her Princess castle was built on, and broke it off with her on the phone. She even tried to LJBF me after I told her off, I said I don't need any friends - that rocked her world. Women are control freaks - the sooner you realize it, the more you will see it when it happens and DO NOT LET A WOMAN PHUCK WITH YOU.

I went NC (pretty much forever, except she still have some sh!t at my place) - after about 3 weeks, totally almost forgot about her as I was gaming plenty of other women and too occupied. Suddenly out of the blue one night, I get a call and I couldn't recognize her voice at first and asked 'Who is this??" (love it!). she started talking about blah blah blah then I tried to get to the point "So what is up?" why she called. She kept asking how I was and if I was all right.

I refused to show her I cared about her nor asked her any questions. I just answered her's non-chalantly and in a neutral tone. I didn't address about why I dumped her - and she never brought up anything in regard to what happened between me and her. I tried to get her off the phone as the last few minutes were uncomfortable because I refused to continue the conversation so she had no other way to keep up the conversation but to hang up.

So she failed to tell me WHY she called - women are such COWARDS. If it wasn't balantly obvious she misses me as I dumped her - reversed, would be a bit more gray area. She didn't even mention about wanting her stuff back until 10 minutes into the conversation I reminded her of me voluntarily delivering her stuff BACK to her (LOL!). So the call was not about wanting to get her stuff back, but wanting to get back together again.

Here's the KEY to NC, if you are stuck between DONE WITH HER, or still in the DEMILITARIZED ZONE of possibly wanting her back (if you dumped her that is). This woman FAILED to have the guts to address where she phucked up earlier - she's behaving like 99.9% of the women out there, REFUSING to take responsibility for what comes out of her mouth, and playing games that I called on her bluff and she LOST.

She was banking on the hope that I would initiate the topic about our dating/relationship and thinking that I would do the REAL work where she phucked up.


Hear me out, BROS - if a woman that DISRESPECTS you and you NEXT her, and she breaks NC, NEVER start the chase until she OWNS up to her mistakes. MAYBE then, she is worth another round of your energy and attention. Do not let women get away with their BULLSH!T pride and arrogance, TEACH them the lesson that their DADDY failed to - have personal integrity and be responsible for their own actions.

Be Well.

Exodus

 

[adam225]

Very interesting thread - I will give my own input and recent personal experience.

I dated a Persian Princess (acts like one too! LOL) a few weeks ago, we were on about 4 dates but the last couple of dates lasted like 10-14hrs long. There was immense amount of sexual tension and attraction between me and her, and we got along really well except for occasional bursts of her b!tchness showing. I was about to take a 2 week business trip overseas back to the U.S. - I played my game and acted like I wasn't really into her all that much (the truth was, I had my doubts because she has signs of a spoiled Princess syndrome).

So I was leaning toward calling it quits with her because she was giving me sh!t test such as she was still hurting from the guy she last dated for 2 months (you phucken kidding me, 2 months and hurting now? LOL....). However she proposed that she didn't want to see any other men while I was on my business trip, and wanted to be exclusive. I figured well, that's a sign of HIGH INTEREST if any, I suppose she can string me along a bit more and I will see how she performs.

So she was blowing hot the first 36 hrs after I was gone, saying she 'missed me' for the very first time. Then a few days later, she was blowing cold as I tried to stay in touch with her every other day briefly. I got sick of her blowing hot & cold, and asked her what is up with that - she then said she was still 'hurting' from her last guy, and that she's too busy with life and didn't want a boyfriend (WTF then WHY did she want to be exclusive?).

This is serious phucked up Princess Hamster on the loose, and I was about to exterminate this public nuisance. I told her she is wasting my time and shook the very ground her Princess castle was built on, and broke it off with her on the phone. She even tried to LJBF me after I told her off, I said I don't need any friends - that rocked her world. Women are control freaks - the sooner you realize it, the more you will see it when it happens and DO NOT LET A WOMAN PHUCK WITH YOU.

I went NC (pretty much forever, except she still have some sh!t at my place) - after about 3 weeks, totally almost forgot about her as I was gaming plenty of other women and too occupied. Suddenly out of the blue one night, I get a call and I couldn't recognize her voice at first and asked 'Who is this??" (love it!). she started talking about blah blah blah then I tried to get to the point "So what is up?" why she called. She kept asking how I was and if I was all right.

I refused to show her I cared about her nor asked her any questions. I just answered her's non-chalantly and in a neutral tone. I didn't address about why I dumped her - and she never brought up anything in regard to what happened between me and her. I tried to get her off the phone as the last few minutes were uncomfortable because I refused to continue the conversation so she had no other way to keep up the conversation but to hang up.

So she failed to tell me WHY she called - women are such COWARDS. If it wasn't balantly obvious she misses me as I dumped her - reversed, would be a bit more gray area. She didn't even mention about wanting her stuff back until 10 minutes into the conversation I reminded her of me voluntarily delivering her stuff BACK to her (LOL!). So the call was not about wanting to get her stuff back, but wanting to get back together again.

Here's the KEY to NC, if you are stuck between DONE WITH HER, or still in the DEMILITARIZED ZONE of possibly wanting her back (if you dumped her that is). This woman FAILED to have the guts to address where she phucked up earlier - she's behaving like 99.9% of the women out there, REFUSING to take responsibility for what comes out of her mouth, and playing games that I called on her bluff and she LOST.

She was banking on the hope that I would initiate the topic about our dating/relationship and thinking that I would do the REAL work where she phucked up.


Hear me out, BROS - if a woman that DISRESPECTS you and you NEXT her, and she breaks NC, NEVER start the chase until she OWNS up to her mistakes. MAYBE then, she is worth another round of your energy and attention. Do not let women get away with their BULLSH!T pride and arrogance, TEACH them the lesson that their DADDY failed to - have personal integrity and be responsible for their own actions.

Be Well.

Exodus

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to GotED? again.

 

[rasj1983]

Very interesting thread - I will give my own input and recent personal experience.

I dated a Persian Princess (acts like one too! LOL) a few weeks ago, we were on about 4 dates but the last couple of dates lasted like 10-14hrs long. There was immense amount of sexual tension and attraction between me and her, and we got along really well except for occasional bursts of her b!tchness showing. I was about to take a 2 week business trip overseas back to the U.S. - I played my game and acted like I wasn't really into her all that much (the truth was, I had my doubts because she has signs of a spoiled Princess syndrome).

So I was leaning toward calling it quits with her because she was giving me sh!t test such as she was still hurting from the guy she last dated for 2 months (you phucken kidding me, 2 months and hurting now? LOL....). However she proposed that she didn't want to see any other men while I was on my business trip, and wanted to be exclusive. I figured well, that's a sign of HIGH INTEREST if any, I suppose she can string me along a bit more and I will see how she performs.

So she was blowing hot the first 36 hrs after I was gone, saying she 'missed me' for the very first time. Then a few days later, she was blowing cold as I tried to stay in touch with her every other day briefly. I got sick of her blowing hot & cold, and asked her what is up with that - she then said she was still 'hurting' from her last guy, and that she's too busy with life and didn't want a boyfriend (WTF then WHY did she want to be exclusive?).

This is serious phucked up Princess Hamster on the loose, and I was about to exterminate this public nuisance. I told her she is wasting my time and shook the very ground her Princess castle was built on, and broke it off with her on the phone. She even tried to LJBF me after I told her off, I said I don't need any friends - that rocked her world. Women are control freaks - the sooner you realize it, the more you will see it when it happens and DO NOT LET A WOMAN PHUCK WITH YOU.

I went NC (pretty much forever, except she still have some sh!t at my place) - after about 3 weeks, totally almost forgot about her as I was gaming plenty of other women and too occupied. Suddenly out of the blue one night, I get a call and I couldn't recognize her voice at first and asked 'Who is this??" (love it!). she started talking about blah blah blah then I tried to get to the point "So what is up?" why she called. She kept asking how I was and if I was all right.

I refused to show her I cared about her nor asked her any questions. I just answered her's non-chalantly and in a neutral tone. I didn't address about why I dumped her - and she never brought up anything in regard to what happened between me and her. I tried to get her off the phone as the last few minutes were uncomfortable because I refused to continue the conversation so she had no other way to keep up the conversation but to hang up.

So she failed to tell me WHY she called - women are such COWARDS. If it wasn't balantly obvious she misses me as I dumped her - reversed, would be a bit more gray area. She didn't even mention about wanting her stuff back until 10 minutes into the conversation I reminded her of me voluntarily delivering her stuff BACK to her (LOL!). So the call was not about wanting to get her stuff back, but wanting to get back together again.

Here's the KEY to NC, if you are stuck between DONE WITH HER, or still in the DEMILITARIZED ZONE of possibly wanting her back (if you dumped her that is). This woman FAILED to have the guts to address where she phucked up earlier - she's behaving like 99.9% of the women out there, REFUSING to take responsibility for what comes out of her mouth, and playing games that I called on her bluff and she LOST.

She was banking on the hope that I would initiate the topic about our dating/relationship and thinking that I would do the REAL work where she phucked up.


Hear me out, BROS - if a woman that DISRESPECTS you and you NEXT her, and she breaks NC, NEVER start the chase until she OWNS up to her mistakes. MAYBE then, she is worth another round of your energy and attention. Do not let women get away with their BULLSH!T pride and arrogance, TEACH them the lesson that their DADDY failed to - have personal integrity and be responsible for their own actions.

Be Well.

Exodus

Damn, your last paragraph, so f****** true! They need to take responsability !

 

[ludis]

This is serious phucked up Princess Hamster on the loose, and I was about to exterminate this public nuisance.

Quote of the month, priceless stuff. :rockon:

 

[rasj1983]

1 week...staying strong... NC.

 

[Queeneleanor]

The Queen speaks

Remarkable advice and I shall be advising my female subjects of it. I have just exacted perfect revenge on two loathesome villains who claimed to be noblemen - one from Egypt and one from Persia - in using this very manner of dealing with the agony of rejection, so eloquently expressed in your post, when they attempted your manipulative techniques upon me, by dumping me. Now they are to be hung drawn and quartered by the police of my country. Serve them right. Hearts should never be broken when they are good ones. Their hearts were black ones and one of them had black lungs too. I dare say the executioner shall discover just how black their hearts and lungs truly are post vivisection. I Queen Eleanor, have blocked both knaves from further attempts to reignite fires in me that were earlier quenched by their appalling cavalier attitudes and lack of empathy for finer, natural feminine tendencies born in me. I am very pleased to have read further on your cruel techniques of manipulating my sex and I have found these also to be the perfect solution to the male species who offends the female by abandoning her with reckless disregard for her feelings and self worth. It is a joy to me to punish villains who do this, the same way! If any villain shall dare come into my confidence ever again as the last two did, they shall meet a worse fate and wish their mothers had not born them. I have noted that a number of knaves write in contempt on your forum about the female sex. These knaves need lessons in chivalry and manners towards the daughters of the world, as do so many of the wenches and shrews with whom they insist on consorting, then abandoning and playing cat and mouse with, according to their posts that do so reply to your recipe for successful manipulation of them.

 

[Don-Kong]

This post appears bang on, but isn't.

Fellow Dons, my brothers, it will actually feed your misery worse. Why? Because you are simply playing games with yourself.

I too have field-tested this. It's ancient. And yes, it works to a degree. But at what price? I got this woman back by the same thing but eventually we got back and it was alright only to have the same thoughts down the road.
It's cliche but sometimes she aint the one.

You will end up trying way too hard to solve everything. I guess it depends on how long you have been together and under what circumstances the break was for, it's very individual and personal but I don't advocate this theory whatsoever. A Don should be able to suck up the pain and walk away.

 

[EbbsAndFlows]

This post appears bang on, but isn't.

Fellow Dons, my brothers, it will actually feed your misery worse. Why? Because you are simply playing games with yourself.

I too have field-tested this. It's ancient. And yes, it works to a degree. But at what price? I got this woman back by the same thing but eventually we got back and it was alright only to have the same thoughts down the road.
It's cliche but sometimes she aint the one.

You will end up trying way too hard to solve everything. I guess it depends on how long you have been together and under what circumstances the break was for, it's very individual and personal but I don't advocate this theory whatsoever. A Don should be able to suck up the pain and walk away.

I agree for the most part. I actually just got done with a 6 month relationship that I had to use NC twice to get her back in. The third time she came back, I told her "I'll get ahold of you and we can catch up", and I just never followed up. The games never stopped because I never fixed my inner-insecurities fully. When I got weak, she would bail, when I'd go NC and move on (truly move on, not pretend), she'd come back, and the cycle would repeat.

What I disagree with is that it is lying to yourself. Wrong. You're forcing yourself to do what works. It might feel like a lie at first, but if you do it right, you will honestly get over her and before you know it you're playing the field and that trick might even come back again. When she does, then it's your turn to decide what to do with the power: if you've fixed your inner betaness, you can try again - if you haven't fixed it, you'll waste more time and $ continuing the cycle (as you mention).

I differ in that: She could be "the one", if such a things exist. But you might not be "the one" for her given your current mentality. Fix your problems, be "the one", then you get to decide if she's "the one". If you need NC to re-calibrate, so be it. It's just hard to fully change a few weeks or months time, but I don't think it's impossible. You gotta change for yourself though, not for "the one".