"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The importance of positive mindset/confidence for anything you do

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The human body is a machine fueled by the brain. When you doubt yourself/fear something, you're automatically giving out a very mediocre output

100% confidence/positive attitude (meaning you expect the best) is the key to giving optimal output. Practice this when you go to the gym today. Give it your absolute best effort and you'll be lifting heavier weights than you've ever lifted in your life

Positive attitude fuels optimal effort. Negative/scared attitude fuels a very halfassed effort. That's why people say life is a self fulfilling prophecy. When you expect bad things to happen, you give a mediocre effort and bad things happen

Pro athletes - the reason they become pros is because they come in everyday, train for hours while giving their absolute best effort
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Unless you're a narcissist, in which case you're delusional and need to come back down to earth to solve your problems
Many extremely successful people have ego issues and are narcissistic in varying degrees.
 

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Is the solution to their problems to act more narcissistic?
Probably a bit less. Bigdave17 was pointing out mindset is huge, which it is.

On his one thread of the impossibility of dating I pointed out his current problem is not that hard. He truly does need to start fvcking what's presenting itself to him for that. It will get him into his desired male and sexual point of view which will be more attractive to ALL WOMEN.

Even the bastard AMS pijnts out that pvzzy droughts can be so bad you almost can't even pay to get it. That there are moneyd and attractive males that aren't getting it. That's why it's important to have a source of reliable pvzzy.
 

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Probably a bit less. Bigdave17 was pointing out mindset is huge, which it is.

On his one thread of the impossibility of dating I pointed out his current problem is not that hard. He truly does need to start fvcking what's presenting itself to him for that. It will get him into his desired male and sexual point of view which will be more attractive to ALL WOMEN.

Even the bastard AMS pijnts out that pvzzy droughts can be so bad you almost can't even pay to get it. That there are moneyd and attractive males that aren't getting it. That's why it's important to have a source of reliable pvzzy.
I discovered AMS recently because someone posted about him here. I saw a couple of his videos. I usually detest "gurus" in this field but his advice is pretty spot on if you are going to listen to someone.
 

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I discovered AMS recently because someone posted about him here. I saw a couple of his videos. I usually detest "gurus" in this field but his advice is pretty spot on if you are going to listen to someone.
For the dating "hell" he's spot on. He's a bastard but it's real life field tested advice that works in 2018..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fake it till you make it works because pretending or faking behaviour to appear more confident has the consequence of actually making us mentally/internally more confident.

Cognitive dissonance.

To minimize the discomfort in having a contradictory attitude and behaviour, either the mindset would change to accommodate behaviour or the behaviour would change to accommodate the mindset.
 
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