"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Importance of Eye Contact

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Hey there all,

If there's one thing I'm bad at, it's picking up the signals of when a female is interested. I've noticed that some people on this site of said how "when I talked to her she stared into my eyes the entire time." Does strong eye contact really mean THAT much as far as potential interest is concerned? I've had several conversations with females who have more or less stared into my eyes nonstop... I don't know how to interpret it because, well, on many levels I'm just straight oblivious

Thanks in advance for your help
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well, if you AREN'T INTERESTED, do you keep looking? NO

If they stare you down with wide open eyes, either you're pretty damn interesting, or that's how they normally look at people.

Take the hint.
 

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This is all covered in the bible i believe. Eye contact. Physical contact. Tell tale signs.
 

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I'll save you the time of looking in the bible and just give you a ton of sh!t.

But first EC for longer periods of time while talking or when a distance away are IOIs.

TO find out if she is interested look for IOIs (Indicator of Interest) most of the time she doesn't really know she is doing it some IOIs are

Her kinoing you
Her able to bounce or move with you
She laughs while talking to you
She smiles at you
She asks for your name
She returns calls
She hold EC for a longer time when she speaks with you
She looks at you from the side to hide that She is looking at you
She reinitiates the conversation when you stop talking
She trys to gain rapport and build comfort

Then you have passive IOIs which are when she doesn't do nothing but still shows she is interested. Such as...

She doesn't resist when you try to escalate kino
or
She doesn't move back or flinch when you get too close.


There are way more things that are IOIs but this is just a few. Thats just what I know off the top of my head if you want more just PM and i'll find send you a link ot a IOI post.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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