"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Importance of Eye Contact

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Hey there all,

If there's one thing I'm bad at, it's picking up the signals of when a female is interested. I've noticed that some people on this site of said how "when I talked to her she stared into my eyes the entire time." Does strong eye contact really mean THAT much as far as potential interest is concerned? I've had several conversations with females who have more or less stared into my eyes nonstop... I don't know how to interpret it because, well, on many levels I'm just straight oblivious

Thanks in advance for your help
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, if you AREN'T INTERESTED, do you keep looking? NO

If they stare you down with wide open eyes, either you're pretty damn interesting, or that's how they normally look at people.

Take the hint.
 

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This is all covered in the bible i believe. Eye contact. Physical contact. Tell tale signs.
 

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I'll save you the time of looking in the bible and just give you a ton of sh!t.

But first EC for longer periods of time while talking or when a distance away are IOIs.

TO find out if she is interested look for IOIs (Indicator of Interest) most of the time she doesn't really know she is doing it some IOIs are

Her kinoing you
Her able to bounce or move with you
She laughs while talking to you
She smiles at you
She asks for your name
She returns calls
She hold EC for a longer time when she speaks with you
She looks at you from the side to hide that She is looking at you
She reinitiates the conversation when you stop talking
She trys to gain rapport and build comfort

Then you have passive IOIs which are when she doesn't do nothing but still shows she is interested. Such as...

She doesn't resist when you try to escalate kino
or
She doesn't move back or flinch when you get too close.


There are way more things that are IOIs but this is just a few. Thats just what I know off the top of my head if you want more just PM and i'll find send you a link ot a IOI post.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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