"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
the " i have a boyfriend" line
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LouieVaton Don
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Damn Becker, you beat me to the punch (as the saying goes) !
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Amog please open your mind - would you want your girlfriend at a club alone grinding on dudes for hours? No? Why not?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
squirrels
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1) She had decided that she WOULD cheat with you but didn't want to take responsibility for it (and thus be a slvt, which she was anyway), so she told YOU she had a man so YOU would then be responsible for "stopping." So she can justify her self image by telling herself, "I TOLD him I had a boyfriend, but he wouldn't listen, and I couldn't help myself, I was so drunk, blah blah"
We've all done it.2) She just likes getting attention from guys...She may or may not have a man, but when she goes clubbing, she likes getting freaky with guys on the dance floor because she knows she can whip out "boyfriend" and he won't try anything or get serious. So it's just a night of fun for her. Once she leaves the club, she goes back into "good girl" mode. I sometimes wonder if you could get away with taking these girls back to the bathroom or something...probably not, but being "still in the club," if she's slvtty enough...
Either way, if you had fun, don't sweat it.
Anyways, to me it's a firting thing. Girls like to tease, and this is merely one way to do it. It boils down to a person's ego. If she wants to feel desired and she's in some shotty relationship, then she can go alone to a club and get plenty of hits there.
2 weeks ago, I met a HB8 who I hit it off with , immediately she told me she had a bf, then when I would go talk with other girls she would drag me away to talk to her, then she would flirt with me, put her hands around my waist, when I tried to go in for a kiss, she would push me away
when you are drunk and horny its all fun n games, and you should just LEAVE the moment and forget about it
it wont amount to ANYTHING, so its a waste to even think about it or post a thread about it
Sorry to be so blunt bro, but I have met and kissed many women at clubs who said they had a bf, and all they are looking for is attention, a little flirting, and an occassional kissing/fooling around
but it never amounts to anything, I just keep those memories and forget the rest
SuperMan_Wuss
Don Juan
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
I'd just call her on it. If she keeps on flirting despite saying she has a boyfriend, just ask for her number as normal and see what happens. 99% chance she'll blow you out. Next!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
playasupreme
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