"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good post Dark Dream. Well written.

I especially like the analogy of the hunter who decides the to cease chasing the prey through difficult terrain but is satisfied by gaining better knowledge of the terrain covered thereby making a more efficient hunter for next time.

Life experience cannot be bought.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BUMP!

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Good piece, DarkDream. The beauty of it is that you focused on what is going on inside the head of a MAN instead of a WOMAN.

Though, I think sexuality is too big for evolution to handle. Why would a woman pass up the guy inventing the airplane to go for the guy who is boldly hopping around the hillside? Why is genius and all its varieties totally ignored by women? Why do women respond to decadent acts? Evolution doesn't really have an answer.

The HOW TOs of getting women and being successful with women are now generally known. What I've been curious about these past few months is not the HOW but the WHY. WHY do women act like they do? What dark secret of nature compels them too? The answer is so... black that I wish I never knew. And I thought the paradigm-shift from the AFC fairyland was shattering.

Best of luck and keep posting!

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Anti-Dump, Big Don, ATNA, Adonis, Allen Thompson, and others- thanks a million.
 

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That was a GREAT post. I like the long posts, you find out they are worth every single second reading.

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"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is just not an act but a habit." - Aristotle

Judge a man by his questions and not his answers.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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HOLY S H I T.

DarkDream, I just want to thank you. This was the article that made me stop about a month or two ago and say to myself "SH1T. I can do this Don Juan stuff I just need to get out there and put these principles into practice.

Before reading this article I was a lurker on this site, scanning the Quick Tips from time to time (this went on for about a year), but taking no active part in the forums or really making an effort with my Don Juaning.

This article changed all that.
 

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Thanks DarkDream. I was entering a phase of self-doubt and a feeling of emotional downess, and I realized now that it was because I was living my life being judged by the opinions of others. I've gotta live MY life, not what other people think my life should be. I've gotta strive for self-improvement, not for others and to look good, but for the most important person in my life: myself. Thanks again

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Direct hit!

This post kicks so much ass I'm at a loss for words!

BUMP!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Pook:
Good piece, DarkDream. The beauty of it is that you focused on what is going on inside the head of a MAN instead of a WOMAN.

>Agreed

Though, I think sexuality is too big for evolution to handle. Why would a woman pass up the guy inventing the airplane to go for the guy who is boldly hopping around the hillside? Why is genius and all its varieties totally ignored by women? Why do women respond to decadent acts? Evolution doesn't really have an answer.

>Since Evolution does not have all the answers, i don't believe in it. I could explain why, but it would merely drag this legendary thread off topic.

The HOW TOs of getting women and being successful with women are now generally known. What I've been curious about these past few months is not the HOW but the WHY. WHY do women act like they do? What dark secret of nature compels them too? The answer is so... black that I wish I never knew. And I thought the paradigm-shift from the AFC fairyland was shattering.

Best of luck and keep posting!

The truth is, i've known about this for a long time. The contents of this post have been genetically imprinted into every man since the very beginning, but alas, "civilization" has supressed our primal instincts and make us all but forget them.

Solomon was indeed right when he said 'There is nothing new under the sun." This whole Dj thing is merely resurrecting our long-suppressed primal instincts that we are born with anyway, yet we have forgotten how to use.

I usually think like the master hunter ever since i found this site, and it has helped my power grow infinitely. The key, of course, is our gut. Our "gut" feelings are our primal instincts. Our brtains are for planning, our instincts are for day-to-day survival and "hunting."

Now, excuse me while i go hunting.
 

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This has got to be one of the best things that I have read at this site. It was kind of long but WELL WORTH THE READ! Thank you.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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probably the best post I have read on this site. A great job well done and certainly a MUST READ for all DJs.

Keep it up bro!
 

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Hrm... I guess I will have to read this tommarow... seems to have had some good readings... but I am tired and I am 3 days into quitting jackin' it, so I am sure you can imagine I am not in a patient enough mood to actually read this. I read 2 paragraphs, and I cant remember anything because my mind is clogged with images of tits. I can hardly handle this any longer.
 

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Pretty damn good.

BUMP!!!

"If your rap is strong it can't go wrong."

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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