"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The grind motivation is BS

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So many motivational videos preach grinding... lack of sleep.. pushing yourself when your exhausted... killing the b!tch inside of you. It’s BS.....

The last two months I’ve embarked on a journey to get diced and in the best cardio condition of my life. Built up to running nearly 40 miles a week... lifting 5 days a week... eating ridiculously clean.

last week I felt drained so i pushed myself 3 straight days... a 9 mile run, 7 and an all out timed 4 mile run. I could barely get out of bed last Friday.... still got up...ate.. went to work and before bed got a lift in.

Last weekend it hit me... I couldn’t talk... could barely breath.... finally took it easy.... kept getting worse... and worse.... Tuesday went to my doctor ox saturation dangerously low... double pneumonia.

unless your on copious ammounts of performance enhancing drugs you need rest....if you don’t listen to your body.... it will say f you and shut you down. On the bright side I am down 12 pounds ... feel emancipated and will destroy as much food as humanity possible today!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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its a culture thats been bred through social media and influencing and applies to almost all niches

I always ask what exactly is the end goal of all this "grinding" there's only so big , so rich , so successful a person can get before it becomes counter intuitive

Nonsense bread from human need for progress and insecurity
 

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unless your on copious ammounts of performance enhancing drugs you need rest
...listen to your body....
This pretty much sums it up. If any of the people in those types of videos actually live like that for sustained periods (unlikely) they probably are prone to manic/narcissistic episodes of high energy and delusion (possibly adderall based), there's no other explaination, this GO GO GO attitude does not work for 99% of people past a certain point.

Grinding/hustling is a meme for the 100 IQ npc's, truly successful people know that consistency, balance, small habits, and overall lifestyle is what matters.
 

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My afib came back after too much exercise recently . I am taking it as a sign to cutback
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Going without sleep doesn't sound productive. I've done it, but it wasn't really by choice. You perform better when rested and healthy. Consistency is the most important thing to strive for.
 

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The main thing you're killing with lack of sleep is your adrenal function, OP.

These youtubers you watch only have an audience because their audience uses the content maker and other audience members as a support group.
 

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Most people don't live past 77, in shape or not. Don't waste time, make the most of what you've got on Earth.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My afib came back after too much exercise recently . I am taking it as a sign to cutback
Are you taking anything for it? I only had it once and now I am on medication for the rest of my life. Never had another episode tho.

Also could get an ablation but there is no guarantee it will work the first time and sometimes need it to be done 2-3 times to eliminate it.
 

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recently I went hard, cut cals and trained really hard. I did 2.5 hours at the gym on Sunday to compensate for a night on the wine. I immediately got sick, for 3 days I was depressed
exactly how I felt...l was able to sustain this for awhile but my body said f you. I actually thought I might want to slow down and resume this in the spring for my cut. I did not have much bf to start and I was waking up looking absolutely shredded.... it became addicting.

now I’m still spitting up phlegm and feeling like garbage because it’s been over a week since I’ve been in the gym. My holiday plans also shot.... had a decent thanksgiving but Friday was exhausted and stayed in to sleep so I missed a get together with friends and yesterday had to bolt on an event we all wanted to attend together because I was hacking all day.

I should know better in 2002 I was on a similar path... killing myself in the gym....started getting sick ... kept pushing... ended up with a much worse case of pneumonia. That was when my long time girlfriend broke the news to me she found someone else and that was that I was out of commission for 2 months and nearly lost my mind but found this site! On the bright side I only have to deal with this illness now...and not some soul crushing dumping lol!

going forward slow and steady will be the way!
 

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Watching a few too many David Goggins videos?

Glad you figured this out. Recovery is just as, if not more, important than training itself. Rest days are just part of my routine at this point. Feel better, OP.
 

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Most people don't live past 77, in shape or not. Don't waste time, make the most of what you've got on Earth.
One of the reasons people don't live long (or develop dementia) is because they don't get enough sleep.
 

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So many motivational videos preach grinding... lack of sleep.. pushing yourself when your exhausted... killing the b!tch inside of you. It’s BS.....

The last two months I’ve embarked on a journey to get diced and in the best cardio condition of my life. Built up to running nearly 40 miles a week... lifting 5 days a week... eating ridiculously clean.

last week I felt drained so i pushed myself 3 straight days... a 9 mile run, 7 and an all out timed 4 mile run. I could barely get out of bed last Friday.... still got up...ate.. went to work and before bed got a lift in.

Last weekend it hit me... I couldn’t talk... could barely breath.... finally took it easy.... kept getting worse... and worse.... Tuesday went to my doctor ox saturation dangerously low... double pneumonia.

unless your on copious ammounts of performance enhancing drugs you need rest....if you don’t listen to your body.... it will say f you and shut you down. On the bright side I am down 12 pounds ... feel emancipated and will destroy as much food as humanity possible today!
Painting things black and white with a broad brush will get you nowhere. You discovered your limits and the value of adequate rest and recovery. Simply re-adjust and continue pushing at a more sustainable rate. Personally I'm prone to RSI if I lift every day, because I regularly push myself through pain to dangerous levels. As a result I adjusted to lifting every other day with cardio on rest days, giving my body 48 hours to recover from the lifts. I haven't had RSI in years. Find your sweet spot, which will not be black or white, but a unique shade of gray.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Are you taking anything for it? I only had it once and now I am on medication for the rest of my life. Never had another episode tho.

Also could get an ablation but there is no guarantee it will work the first time and sometimes need it to be done 2-3 times to eliminate it.
Not yet. This just started two weeks ago. It might be pvc’s. I need to go see a cardiologist
 
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