HellHathNoFury
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So I was hanging out with my ex the other night. As we're getting ready to leave she kissed 2 of her guy friends goodbye on the lips (a little peck). WTF?!
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
:nono:So I was hanging out with my ex the other night.
Exactly. If she's your X, you have no business hanging out with her. You have put yourself in that position, now you have to deal with it.Blusher said::nono:
She's your ex, why do you hang out with her?
Why would you give a **** what she does with other guys? She's your ex.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Somewhat. I'm kind of feeling her out to see if she's the right chic for me. I've been watching her behavior pretty close. I'm def not chasing her like that though. Still "sarging."Rondavu said:Maybe he's trying to get back with his ex?
Not exactly. But I am French and that's how I used to greet American tourists on a trip to Paris.Maybe she's European. I hear Europeans sleep with strangers as a way of greeting them.
(Sigh) I'll try to make a long story short.Blusher said:A more interresting question would then be : Why did you split up in the first place?
Not exactly. But I am French and that's how I used to greet American tourists on a trip to Paris.![]()
HellHathNoFury said:(Sigh)
My side:
1. I was acting like a girly-man and not standing up to her
2. Communication
3. Being overly available and not being a challenge made her interest level drop
4. I failed too many of her "tests"
After reading a lot and finding this site I realized 1, 3, and 4.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
your acting like a girly man now, your the guy who posted about his mate GF having a male friend and your now the male friend, mmmm intresting how you look at things. Take a step back for a second and see the bigger picture here.HellHathNoFury said:(Sigh) I'll try to make a long story short.
She broke up w/ me b/c...
Her side:
1. she felt that she was treating me like **** at times
2. Communication was missing
My side:
1. I was acting like a girly-man and not standing up to her
2. Communication
3. Being overly available and not being a challenge made her interest level drop
4. I failed too many of her "tests"
After reading a lot and finding this site I realized 1, 3, and 4.
Onitus at times man you have it now 24/7 it is plain to see.HellHathNoFury said:Yes I have been suffering from oneitis at times. After a month of drama I left her alone and cut off all contact for about a 2 weeks. She'd call and text and I wouldn't return them. She approached me when I was out telling me she missed me. I gave in and started banging her again, only on weekends. I'd never call her. She'd always text or whatever. At times it would seem like she's coming around. I've given her all sorts of ****, and take no more dookie from her. If I see something I don't like I tell her like it is.