HellHathNoFury
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So I was hanging out with my ex the other night. As we're getting ready to leave she kissed 2 of her guy friends goodbye on the lips (a little peck). WTF?!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The friend kiss
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Blusher
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She's your ex, why do you hang out with her?
Why would you give a **** what she does with other guys? She's your ex.
diplomatic_lies
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Maybe she's European. I hear Europeans sleep with strangers as a way of greeting them.
Kings_royalty
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Exactly. If she's your X, you have no business hanging out with her. You have put yourself in that position, now you have to deal with it.Blusher said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
HellHathNoFury
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Somewhat. I'm kind of feeling her out to see if she's the right chic for me. I've been watching her behavior pretty close. I'm def not chasing her like that though. Still "sarging."Rondavu said:
The deal is that we both still have feeling for each other. I just ended up running into her that night.
Interesting thing is that when I asked her if she would want me doing that, she got quiet as a mouse.
Blusher
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A more interresting question would then be : Why did you split up in the first place?
Not exactly. But I am French and that's how I used to greet American tourists on a trip to Paris.
HellHathNoFury
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(Sigh) I'll try to make a long story short.Blusher said:A more interresting question would then be : Why did you split up in the first place?
Not exactly. But I am French and that's how I used to greet American tourists on a trip to Paris.
She broke up w/ me b/c...
Her side:
1. she felt that she was treating me like **** at times
2. Communication was missing
My side:
1. I was acting like a girly-man and not standing up to her
2. Communication
3. Being overly available and not being a challenge made her interest level drop
4. I failed too many of her "tests"
After reading a lot and finding this site I realized 1, 3, and 4.
Blusher
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OK, I don't want to piss on your parade but when a girl dumps you, it takes supernatural powers to make her fall in love 'again'. Lots of guys have tried and tried again, I do not know any that succeeded on the long run.
The reason is that it's near impossible to clear your image of all the things that made her dump you the first time. When it happens, bite the bullet and move on. It seems more comfortable to stay with that girl for now, but the truth is, it's way easier to start from scratch with another.
The reason is that it's near impossible to clear your image of all the things that made her dump you the first time. When it happens, bite the bullet and move on. It seems more comfortable to stay with that girl for now, but the truth is, it's way easier to start from scratch with another.
Tomatoes
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HellHathNoFury said:
Yet this post is showing you are still failing them. She may have kissed them out of a sh!t test. So dont react.....who cares......
Plus you still hang out with your ex? That will give you serious oneitis issues.
Cut off from her for abit.
Sarge On!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
your acting like a girly man now, your the guy who posted about his mate GF having a male friend and your now the male friend, mmmm intresting how you look at things. Take a step back for a second and see the bigger picture here.HellHathNoFury said:
So your GF dumped you now you want her back, dam man where are your balls your pride and most importantly your self respect, not to mention this girl is very much stringing you along and fuc**ng with you emotionally, this forum is now a product of your emotional female retarded state.
slap that female BS out of your system and find better things to do with your time then waste it on this girl man there are 100000000 of women in this world you are wasting time effort and energy on the emotional BS. So much wasted over this for so little reward, what is it you want for this girl?
Come on what is the answer what is it you want?
Forget about her, stop trying to fit into her world and ideals sod the cow.
Women will try to change you, fu** that, she is dam lucky to be even in your world, let the other poor saps be strung along trying there hardest to get the holy prize, you on the other hand will move on and up and show her she has missed out BIG TIME, the looser! Forget about her do it now!
HellHathNoFury
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Yes I have been suffering from oneitis at times. After a month of drama I left her alone and cut off all contact for about a 2 weeks. She'd call and text and I wouldn't return them. She approached me when I was out telling me she missed me. I gave in and started banging her again, only on weekends. I'd never call her. She'd always text or whatever. At times it would seem like she's coming around. I've given her all sorts of ****, and take no more dookie from her. If I see something I don't like I tell her like it is.
Onitus at times man you have it now 24/7 it is plain to see.HellHathNoFury said:
Forget about her FFS, find more women if you must!
Your so in the zone it is unreal if she wants you back let her do the hard work and the chasing, she dumped you remember, dam no idea why you would go back into it, you must be a glutton for emotional punishment.
But this is wasted on you in truth to you getting more women is a chore you cant face, living single is not in your world of thinking so you will accept BS from women for ever more.