"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Fraity of Innocence...

CableLight

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Eeegh...Greets, fellas.

This is somewhat tough to explain, but I dont know what the deal has been lately...I've just not been very motivated / inspired in the past few weeks (nearly a month) to do anything. I come here, try to read a few posts and keep up-to-date with the Bibles and such, but just feel burnt out with it all...

Haven't talked to a new girl in over a week and a half, and I feel like I'm getting rusty. It's like I dont have the motivation to succeed right now...

Anyone have any words of wisdom or inspiration they could spare? It would be greatly appreciated, especially now with only a few weeks of school left. I dont want to go out on a negative note...

Cheers.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BWSL2

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There's more to it than that, AFK.

We all hit bad times now and again. I'm in one right now. The best advice I can give you is to keep your head up, there's nothing wrong with you. This happens. Focus on having a good time, doing something you really enjoy and might not have done for a while. For instance, I love to golf. I have spent some time on the driving range ever since the weather got good and I feel a lot better-more motivated, happier, more satisfied.

The party isn't over-the DJ of life just put on a bad record. :)
 

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Try and have faith. Not necessarily in God, but have faith in something. Have faith that you will persevere. Have faith that the world may someday change. Have faith in something; find what works for you.

It sounds like nothing in particular is bothering you, just your insecurities and doubts; don't worry, we all have them. I would suggest taking it back to basics. What kind of person do you want to be? Why aren't you that person now? What will it take to become that person? Being a great person is a very demanding thing; you need to take a break every now and then to face your doubts. Don't worry, you'll be an even greater person at the end of it all. You can't expect yourself to be perfect 100% of the time, so just accept the fact that nothing is wrong with you. You'll rise to the top once more when you're ready.

Best of luck!!!
 

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Thanks guys...I appreciate it :)

I dunno why I've been so blue lately...It's not like I've done anything irregularly in the past few weeks.

But I dunno, I think its all good - As we speak theres a beautiful gal asleep on my couch :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can feel you on this one man. Sometimes I don't feel like socializing or anything. Then sometimes Im in such a good mindset that I'm afraid I might loose it. Now im not saying your a coward or that your afraid but sometimes I believe we worry when we get knocked out of our game.

The best thing to do is just roll with the punches.
 
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