"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The first call

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Need some help, I have no problem picking up
girls, getting numbers, as long as I am face to face. But when it comes to calling them for the
first time, I'm completely cool and calm when I
go to dial the phone, but as the phone rings I feel
a weird anxiety attack coming on, by the time
they answer, my heartrate is pounding to the
point of where I feel sick, I don't understand why,
I feel no need to impress these girls, and quite frankly I could give a sh*t about them, what can I do to stay calm when making the first call? Any tips or tricks would be most appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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serial_kisser

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pretty easy.,...preplan....just write down what would you be speaking while talkin' to her on phone,,,,BUT write it down before calling her.......it couldn't get any easier.....
have fun.....just follow what i told you......it will be easy on you.
 
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Just pretend she's in front of you and have fun. If you can go up to her, shoot the ****, and get her number, you should be able to call her.
 
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...and try to keep it as short as possible.

One of the way I usually end the conversation when I get a girl's number is to teach her how to greet me when I call.

me: "so, when I call you, you are going to pick up and say 'OH MY GOD! I cant believe you rang!!!!' and act really exited!"

she might say she wont do that, or feel shy about it. but thats not important.

When you do ring her, she will either say it, or if she doesn't, you can say "hey! didn't we practice how you were going to greet me???"

That will have her giggling, and hopefully it will relax you as well because you will be picking up the conversation at the hight point that you left it!

good luck!
 
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Fash, that's great. I love it. I think I heard Lance Mason say that once too. Good advice.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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no dude dont write anything down. that is even more unnatural. just calm down when you call. understand that they are people too. shes probably just as nervous as you. pretend that your better than her. boost your confidence. thats all you need to do.
 
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