"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The feeling of awkwardness

That_Guy49

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Is it normal for a a guy trying to get better with the ladies to feel awkward in various situations involving women?

Should I just ignore it or is my gut telling me warning me of possible humiliation?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Now I don't presume to know what I'm talking about, being a fellow beginner, but my take on it is that you just go ahead and do the stuff that makes you feel awkward, and eventually you become good enough for there to be no awkwardness, or eventually you find out that there was never any awkwardness, and you just needed more self-assurance.

Practice. Or something.
 

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Originally posted by That_Guy49
Is it normal for a a guy trying to get better with the ladies to feel awkward in various situations involving women?

Should I just ignore it or is my gut telling me warning me of possible humiliation?
Simple answer yes.

Your body is giving you several signals.

The first is fear, more specifically the fear of rejection.

The next is anxiety, what happens if she says yes? Will I know what to say?

The final feeling is excitement. What could this lead to? Is she the one, etc etc.

What you need to do is not simply ignore the emotion but learn to embrace them and use them to your advantage.

I've been doing this for two years and i am very comfortable with talking to woman, its become second nature. However, there are certain situations where i feel anxious and a little awkward, such as if i screw up, if its more than 2 ladies. But thats why i do it. I know that i need to learn how to recover from a situation, and how to work on groups of chicks.

We all got/get intimidated, you just need to learn to understand it, and use it. The best way to do this is, practice, practice, practice.

Eventually you learn how to use your excitement as a way to show interest, your anxiety can be controlled to show a sense of calmness with the situation, and your fear as a sign of your strength.

Just keep up the work.
 
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