"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The fat question

Frank_Tartaglia

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I've noticed that women often ask if I think that they are fat. I can't figure out why women ask questions like these or what type of response I should give.

Out of all the women who've asked me I didn't think any of them were fat and I said that. Should I have handled things differently?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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theunflushables

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Its a self esteem booster. Women are conscious about their weight. All their damn magazines are filled with these skinny supermodels they know they will never be and it makes them feel fat.

And yes you are answering the question correctly.
 

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Proselytiser said:
The fat question is a total mind****! Just NEXT the sorry little *****!
If he does that he'll next every woman in existence. I have yet to meet a woman who hasn't asked if she's fat. Its like some secret universal constant.

The day we make alien contact I am sure one of the first questions asked by the female of the alien species is "Am I fat?"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Proselytiser

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
Really? Current girlfriend has NEVER asked me if I think she's fat or not. She has mentioned her weight once or twice (in over two years) but only 'I should probably exercise a bit more' which she then went and did.

There are girls out there that don't ask this, whether or not there's more who ask the fat question in America (I'm in Australia) I don't know...
 

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I'd give an honest answer. Because I'm nice like that.

But - protip: don't be too blunt about it. And if they're saying that they want to lose weight, but you don't see any need, say something like: "I think you're quite fine as you are, but if you want to tone up then sure, I'll be behind you".
 

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I was asked by my female friend once, and I told her she was fat(She is 5'0 180 lbs).


She liked my honesty and agreed she needed to lose weight.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nexus Polaris

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I typically respond with, "Oh hell yeah!"

If she's got a sense of humor, she'll laugh. If not, she will usually cry and/or hit me with something. Either way, she has proven whether or not she is worth my time.
 

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A girl asked me that once.

Warrior74, do you think I'm fat?

Are you hungry?

No.

Then yes you're fat.


She was not amused. ;)
 

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Thanks guys. Definitely some good advice. I'll try out some it this soon.
 
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