"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The Facebook Pimping Thread
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MisterMcGee
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status? i dont update mine often but ive started recently just cause i felt like it. Got the newest jon dore-ism up there.
The photos I'm tagged in include a bunch where I'm surrounded by chicks. I have a bunch of female friends and thankfully they put up photos of me with them. I don't untag these photos because it shows my social value with other women.
My profile information is minimal, funny, and unique. Minimal to remain mysterious. Funny because girls want a dude that can make them laugh. Unique so that I separate myself from all the other dudes on facebook.
The status updates is probably the area where I could most improve. It seems as though I get most comments on my status when I propose a question. Thoughts on status updates my fellow DJs?
Never tell a girl how good she looks in a picture. Total chump move. Photos are great for neg hits, but don't overdo it. If she comments back on one of your photos, then that gives you the go ahead to comment on an additional one of her photos. If you comment on too many of her photos however, you will come off as too interested.
Whenever I write on a chicks wall I try to put something funny or ask a question so she'll write on my wall with a response. My wall is filled almost 95% with women making comments. Not all of them are love interests. Most are just female friends that you can actually use to make interested girls jealous. Interested girls will wonder about all these other girls on your wall, when in fact most are just friends.
This could be a problem, and I'm curious to hear what other DJs have to say, because this could backfire and make you look like a player. Any thoughts?Oh yeah, I don't poke because I think it's too forward. Thoughts?
It's cool for putting up some pics of you clubbin or whatever, but it's not likely to get you any women. I see a bunch of chumps always commenting on photos and tagging themselves in hundreds of photos and it's very bit*h like to do such things.
As for me, I have a Facebook and like you guys I have a very limited amount of photos up. I barely have any info and my wall is always full but that's pretty much it. The little status thing is stupid and also bi*ch like in a way. What's the point of always saying something stupid for people to comment on?
It sounds like you haven't had much success on Facebook (FB). I had a former classmate randomly find me on FB. We messaged back and forth and I eventually convinced her to come over to my band's practice and ended up f%&king her that night. No date--> just straight to the point.ZhaoYun said:
Due to my job I'm too busy to go to pubs all the time, so when I do meet a girl it is relatively harmless to add them on FB. I think it's helpful because you can weed out girls before wasting time on a first date. Most of these girls put a shyte load of pics up and profile information. Oh my, she doesn't look as good in these pics as I had remembered, I must have been too drunk. Pass. Oh, her hobbies are shopping and hanging out with friends. Lame. Pass. Etc. No date, no problem. You have some new female friends that guess what...have other female friends.
Now if she is hot and seems interesting judging by her profile you can chat her up and then do the # close on FB. I've gotten a few #s that way and then set up dates later.
I'm not advocating hitting up total strangers on FB, I don't do that. But to say that "Dudes that come at them or try to hook up through Facebook are a joke to them" is an overstatement that doesn't ring true in my experience.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
100% Agree.
Quite the contrary, I've banged about 5 women so far that are on my friends list. However, I met them in person and simply used FB as a tool.ucmedv8 said:
So yeah I know it's possible to get your everyday h0 hookup with the help of Facebook. Grats on getting your skank via FB.
I probably should have stated quality women. Young, immature girls and attention hoes love FB because chumps give them free love without them having to directly interact. It's just like MySpace. It works for some but mostly it's just another site for girls to get attention from horny men that have trouble getting women the real, manly sort of way.
Very few are successful consistently and when you do get a lay or two more often then not it's from some ugly/average girl that anyone could have probably hit anyway.
Cheers
not sure if this is something... cuz i told her like this..
wanna be study partner for this class..? whats your facebook...
she said.. oh ye.. let me give you my url..
did i just hop in the friend zone circle? HAHAHA
My question is do you have your profiles set to private or public? My thinking is that with your profile set to private the girls that are interested will add you just to find out more about you whereas if it was set to public they can just scope out your page unbeknownst to you.
On the flipside, if you got a great page, then having it set to public would allow more women to see it and di your vibe...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.