"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The Facebook Pimping Thread
- Thread starter It's-Me
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MisterMcGee
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status? i dont update mine often but ive started recently just cause i felt like it. Got the newest jon dore-ism up there.
The photos I'm tagged in include a bunch where I'm surrounded by chicks. I have a bunch of female friends and thankfully they put up photos of me with them. I don't untag these photos because it shows my social value with other women.
My profile information is minimal, funny, and unique. Minimal to remain mysterious. Funny because girls want a dude that can make them laugh. Unique so that I separate myself from all the other dudes on facebook.
The status updates is probably the area where I could most improve. It seems as though I get most comments on my status when I propose a question. Thoughts on status updates my fellow DJs?
Never tell a girl how good she looks in a picture. Total chump move. Photos are great for neg hits, but don't overdo it. If she comments back on one of your photos, then that gives you the go ahead to comment on an additional one of her photos. If you comment on too many of her photos however, you will come off as too interested.
Whenever I write on a chicks wall I try to put something funny or ask a question so she'll write on my wall with a response. My wall is filled almost 95% with women making comments. Not all of them are love interests. Most are just female friends that you can actually use to make interested girls jealous. Interested girls will wonder about all these other girls on your wall, when in fact most are just friends.
This could be a problem, and I'm curious to hear what other DJs have to say, because this could backfire and make you look like a player. Any thoughts?Oh yeah, I don't poke because I think it's too forward. Thoughts?
It's cool for putting up some pics of you clubbin or whatever, but it's not likely to get you any women. I see a bunch of chumps always commenting on photos and tagging themselves in hundreds of photos and it's very bit*h like to do such things.
As for me, I have a Facebook and like you guys I have a very limited amount of photos up. I barely have any info and my wall is always full but that's pretty much it. The little status thing is stupid and also bi*ch like in a way. What's the point of always saying something stupid for people to comment on?
It sounds like you haven't had much success on Facebook (FB). I had a former classmate randomly find me on FB. We messaged back and forth and I eventually convinced her to come over to my band's practice and ended up f%&king her that night. No date--> just straight to the point.ZhaoYun said:
Due to my job I'm too busy to go to pubs all the time, so when I do meet a girl it is relatively harmless to add them on FB. I think it's helpful because you can weed out girls before wasting time on a first date. Most of these girls put a shyte load of pics up and profile information. Oh my, she doesn't look as good in these pics as I had remembered, I must have been too drunk. Pass. Oh, her hobbies are shopping and hanging out with friends. Lame. Pass. Etc. No date, no problem. You have some new female friends that guess what...have other female friends.
Now if she is hot and seems interesting judging by her profile you can chat her up and then do the # close on FB. I've gotten a few #s that way and then set up dates later.
I'm not advocating hitting up total strangers on FB, I don't do that. But to say that "Dudes that come at them or try to hook up through Facebook are a joke to them" is an overstatement that doesn't ring true in my experience.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
100% Agree.
Quite the contrary, I've banged about 5 women so far that are on my friends list. However, I met them in person and simply used FB as a tool.ucmedv8 said:
So yeah I know it's possible to get your everyday h0 hookup with the help of Facebook. Grats on getting your skank via FB.
I probably should have stated quality women. Young, immature girls and attention hoes love FB because chumps give them free love without them having to directly interact. It's just like MySpace. It works for some but mostly it's just another site for girls to get attention from horny men that have trouble getting women the real, manly sort of way.
Very few are successful consistently and when you do get a lay or two more often then not it's from some ugly/average girl that anyone could have probably hit anyway.
Cheers
not sure if this is something... cuz i told her like this..
wanna be study partner for this class..? whats your facebook...
she said.. oh ye.. let me give you my url..
did i just hop in the friend zone circle? HAHAHA
My question is do you have your profiles set to private or public? My thinking is that with your profile set to private the girls that are interested will add you just to find out more about you whereas if it was set to public they can just scope out your page unbeknownst to you.
On the flipside, if you got a great page, then having it set to public would allow more women to see it and di your vibe...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.