"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The exact meaning of beta

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I had a general idea of what a beta is (from biology at school regarding animals),however people in this site use that term meaning different concepts so I would like someone to give a proper description.

Also some guys say this condition is from your birth others from society,some says you can turn from A to B others say you just can fake it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There isn't one. It means whatever a poster conveniently wants it to mean at the time they use it.
 

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I think the general term is used to describe the dude who is not finding his successes...getting walked on by women...I would say even the word "alpha" can take many different meanings..

Instead of defining beta, what would you say the attributes of an Alpha male are?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rollo I went to the link you posted and here's one of the qualities of an alpha male.
"What’s with this pack ****? ‘XX’ has some serious issues about betrayal. Was she betrayed by a man she loved? An alpha male vows fealty to one pack: the package in his pants.

Beta males are the ones less likely to betray a “member of the pack”, because they don’t have the stones to do it."

So, I need clarity on something. Is Alphaism = DJism? What do you think of the quote I posted Rollo?
 

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Beta: guys who've slept with fewer and/or uglier women than you.
 

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jafyk said:
So, I need clarity on something. Is Alphaism = DJism? What do you think of the quote I posted Rollo?
No. Alpha is a mindset, not a demographic.

Alpha is the mindset, DJism is the application. Alpha is the mindset, assholishness and douchebaggery is the application. Alpha is the mindset, noble, chivalric, leader-of-men is the application. Alpha is the mindset, white collar criminal, or drug-dealing pimp is the application.
 
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