"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Essential Role of Men in sex

BaronOfHair

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This is not about me, but a close friend. When he was about 14 I think, an older neighbor woman took him under her wing, and taught him how to please a woman. He was very tall at a young age, so this probably has something to do with why he was chosen
I take it he told you this story, and you've made little effort to no effort to verify it
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I take it he told you this story, and you've made little effort to no effort to verify it
He is to this day a close and very trusted friend, and I don't recall him ever lying to me, this is not a mere acquaintance. I was in school and in the neighborhood with him at the time, I know of the neighbor of which he speaks, and I don't find it surprising. She had a reputation and there were some things going on around her house which people were aware of. It sounds consistent with other behaviors I've observed from her, and consistent with behaviors I've seen from him. And again remember, this happened in the '70s, when attitudes were much different. I don't doubt his story at all.
 

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The purpose of carrying out a mission like this is to get you action-oriented, as opposed to getting lost in these weird thoughts of yours
You will be seen as a maniac or low value from the woman?

This is not about me, but a close friend. When he was about 14 I think, an older neighbor woman took him under her wing, and taught him how to please a woman. He was very tall at a young age, so this probably has something to do with why he was chosen. This is now considered a crime, but this was back in the '70s and probably wouldn't be considered quite so shocking with all the "free love" attitudes going around. I'm sure it was still technically a crime back then, but if it had been a 14 year old female, the guy probably would have been sent up the river for life. Anyway.

This experience made him very, very confident in his sexual skills and experience. After all, he had received a masterclass of sorts. He used to scoff at the kids in school, like the football players who bragged about their conquests. He thought he had the advantage over all of them. I've always said preparation leads to confidence. A basketball player is confident going on to the court because he knows he has put in the preparation - the practice and coaching. A musician is confident going onstage because he has put in the preparation - the practice and learning his instrument. I guess my point is that it appears this was a positive experience for him, whether it was a crime or not.
You perfectly hit the point.

You can have your inner self esteem, but repeated exposure to an event, and the feedback from it, make you a Man.

In this case, we are talking about the "quality" of those events, more than "quantity".

I wonder if we can get lucky like your friend, to find someone so expert which can teach you things.
This was the point of the post: do we have that by paying a professional escort, or not? This was the point about it
 

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This is not about me, but a close friend. When he was about 14 I think, an older neighbor woman took him under her wing, and taught him how to please a woman. He was very tall at a young age, so this probably has something to do with why he was chosen. This is now considered a crime, but this was back in the '70s and probably wouldn't be considered quite so shocking with all the "free love" attitudes going around. I'm sure it was still technically a crime back then, but if it had been a 14 year old female, the guy probably would have been sent up the river for life. Anyway.

This experience made him very, very confident in his sexual skills and experience. After all, he had received a masterclass of sorts. He used to scoff at the kids in school, like the football players who bragged about their conquests. He thought he had the advantage over all of them. I've always said preparation leads to confidence. A basketball player is confident going on to the court because he knows he has put in the preparation - the practice and coaching. A musician is confident going onstage because he has put in the preparation - the practice and learning his instrument. I guess my point is that it appears this was a positive experience for him, whether it was a crime or not.
You perfectly hit the point.

You can have your inner self esteem, but repeated exposure to an event, and the feedback from it, make you a Man.

In this case, we are talking about the "quality" of those events, more than "quantity".
 

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You will be seen as a maniac or low value from the woman?
Invite a woman to join you for coffee or frozen yogurt, then instruct her to do this
, right before you all leave. Don't worry about what she thinks at that moment. This is about you taking action out in reality
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Invite a woman to join you for coffee or frozen yogurt, then instruct her to do this
, right before you all leave. Don't worry about what she thinks at that moment.
Then how she will consider you?
How would this action make her feel from now on?
 
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