That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is "To Catch a Predator". It does not do a good service to link these issues to any incel case. First of all this guy is not incel if he got laid six times meeting women online. In this article this guys does not have enough sense to terminate contact at any hint of jail bait. Men from all walks of life, including married men and old guys can be a pervert or molester. You think fathers who molest their daughters are incel too. Come on.Convicted of Sex Crimes, but With No Victims (Published 2020)
An online sting operation to catch child predators snared hundreds of men. What were they really guilty of?www.nytimes.com
This guy is a subtype of incel - an escortcel.
The article did not say he paid for sex. I remember craiglist when it was legal here and escorts were listed under services.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.