Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is "To Catch a Predator". It does not do a good service to link these issues to any incel case. First of all this guy is not incel if he got laid six times meeting women online. In this article this guys does not have enough sense to terminate contact at any hint of jail bait. Men from all walks of life, including married men and old guys can be a pervert or molester. You think fathers who molest their daughters are incel too. Come on.Convicted of Sex Crimes, but With No Victims (Published 2020)
An online sting operation to catch child predators snared hundreds of men. What were they really guilty of?www.nytimes.com
This guy is a subtype of incel - an escortcel.
The article did not say he paid for sex. I remember craiglist when it was legal here and escorts were listed under services.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.