You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Rebound Material said:
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I see a third type of friendszone. The third friendszone is where if a girl begins to vomit emotions onto me, I politely get up and leave. They get the hint.My Name is Nobody said:
AHH...It sucks but Im so familiar with the 1st type of friendzoneMy Name is Nobody said:
. At least when you hit it and then get FZ'd, u can say that you left with SOMETHING.
It may "supposed to be fun" but for me, it's only fun when I win. If I have to work my ass off to get a girl, and I sexually conquer her, it's all good. If I put in an average effort to get the Friendszone $hit, all I want is some form of revenge. I wont chill once I have been friendszoned, unless they beg, and they buy the rounds. If I can fukk some of their friends in front of them, that to me is a form of revenge.comic_relief said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
your too serious for me.JackPrescott said:
It may "supposed to be fun" but for me, it's only fun when I win. If I have to work my ass off to get a girl, and I sexually conquer her, it's all good. If I put in an average effort to get the Friendszone $hit, all I want is some form of revenge. I wont chill once I have been friendszoned, unless they beg, and they buy the rounds. If I can fukk some of their friends in front of them, that to me is a form of revenge.
Personally, I wouldnt use yours either.
stop all contact and move on.krazyboy99 said:
Haha, I love your frank honesty. I almost want to give you rep points.JackPrescott said:
The Attention Who*res have the Ego trip, not me. I am a humble man. But I play to win, baby, not lose. IF a woman is throwing me sexual hints and flirtatious signals, and I call her on her sh*it and get "Friendszoned" it is not happy times. I cannot stomach or tolerate the Friendszone.Blue Phoenix said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, its always a whack ass feeling to get teased so I feel you on that one. But hell, follow our own advice but not to such an extreme. Cut outgoing contact with her(notice I didnt mention incoming contact. If she calls you, make it brief and closed ended).JackPrescott said:
Agreed. And thats a good policy. I still enjoy the feeling of them seeing me with another woman, however, but thats just me and my Ahab issues.Rebound Material said:
"Revenge is a Dish that is best served COLD.":trouble:BipedGod said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.