I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rebound Material said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I see a third type of friendszone. The third friendszone is where if a girl begins to vomit emotions onto me, I politely get up and leave. They get the hint.My Name is Nobody said:
AHH...It sucks but Im so familiar with the 1st type of friendzoneMy Name is Nobody said:
. At least when you hit it and then get FZ'd, u can say that you left with SOMETHING.
It may "supposed to be fun" but for me, it's only fun when I win. If I have to work my ass off to get a girl, and I sexually conquer her, it's all good. If I put in an average effort to get the Friendszone $hit, all I want is some form of revenge. I wont chill once I have been friendszoned, unless they beg, and they buy the rounds. If I can fukk some of their friends in front of them, that to me is a form of revenge.comic_relief said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
your too serious for me.JackPrescott said:
It may "supposed to be fun" but for me, it's only fun when I win. If I have to work my ass off to get a girl, and I sexually conquer her, it's all good. If I put in an average effort to get the Friendszone $hit, all I want is some form of revenge. I wont chill once I have been friendszoned, unless they beg, and they buy the rounds. If I can fukk some of their friends in front of them, that to me is a form of revenge.
Personally, I wouldnt use yours either.
stop all contact and move on.krazyboy99 said:
Haha, I love your frank honesty. I almost want to give you rep points.JackPrescott said:
The Attention Who*res have the Ego trip, not me. I am a humble man. But I play to win, baby, not lose. IF a woman is throwing me sexual hints and flirtatious signals, and I call her on her sh*it and get "Friendszoned" it is not happy times. I cannot stomach or tolerate the Friendszone.Blue Phoenix said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yes, its always a whack ass feeling to get teased so I feel you on that one. But hell, follow our own advice but not to such an extreme. Cut outgoing contact with her(notice I didnt mention incoming contact. If she calls you, make it brief and closed ended).JackPrescott said:
Agreed. And thats a good policy. I still enjoy the feeling of them seeing me with another woman, however, but thats just me and my Ahab issues.Rebound Material said:
"Revenge is a Dish that is best served COLD.":trouble:BipedGod said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.