"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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in the past months, we have been attacked by a wave of complaining threads, useless questions and general crap. most no one takes even the tiniest initiative to solve their own problems...they post something generally stupid ("how do i talk to girls??~?!?") and expect us, the established members, to answer their questions like we're some kinda crystal ball of female knowledge. people, these things are on the site. use the search feature.

of course, the whiners threads speak for themselves. i don't want to mention any names (as if i have to) but there are members here who contribute absolutely nothing, and have been for a long time. this is a community. we're not gonna carry you without you giving anything back other than annoyance and time wasted trying to read your poorly written threads. if someone shows on a regular basis that they are simply whiners or trolls, they should be banned. i, for one, refuse to give these people server space when they dont show any improvement and dont bother trying. go bother someone else.

these are rules. READ THEM.


the sosuave hs forums used to be a proud place where everyone contributed and people who indulged in the behavior above would be banned, have their threads deleted, or have their threads quickly shuffled to the bottom. i'm going to pm the mods about getting a mod just for this forum, but in the meantime lets do our best to just ignore the pathetic threads. if its a question being asked for its billionith time or a whiners thread, just dont reply. they'll dissapear down the list quickly.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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almost forgot

while the whiner/dumb question asker threads are bad, the flamers are even worse. they keep threads like these going, and contribute even less (at least hearing a kid whine about his pathetic life is humorous). if you arent going to contribute to the thread and your reply is simply aimed at bringing down the person who wrote it, dont bother posting it. i know, i've flamed before too for useless things, but we need to make a resolution to stop doing things that doesnt better us as a forum. if any self respecting male who didnt need these forums visited them, we'd look like a bunch of retards who need lives. maybe some of you are, but as for me i dont want the forums to look like that. lets focus on being a bit less a*sholes and a bit more supportive.

got nothing good to say, then say nothing at all.
 

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dannowillbookem said:
while the whiner/dumb question asker threads are bad, the flamers are even worse. they keep threads like these going, and contribute even less (at least hearing a kid whine about his pathetic life is humorous).
No its really not that funny. Seeing their blissful ignorance is actually kinda sad. What makes it annoying is that they think WE have answers and by posting how much their life sucks, they think something is gonna change. If they could read certain things about where to start instead of read the bible, they might not be as attention craving.
 

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How many posts like this have I seen across my 6 years here...
 

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LikRetsam said:
How many posts like this have I seen across my 6 years here...
i know its almost cliched and that people have been saying this for a long time, but the hs forums have really degenerated in my stay here. its just people arguing and people whining, i had to say something.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LikRetsam said:
How many posts like this have I seen across my 6 years here...
Too many I am guessing. These appear every couple of weeks and no one pays attention to them. Give it three days and people will be flaming newbies and harassing them.

Of course, if you guys promise you won't start pitching fits, I'm gonna start really enforcing the rules. But no complaints when I do, deal?
 

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honestly too many threads would be closed if EVERY rule was enforced CONSTANTLY (aka...just because speed seduction tips are in the dj bible doesnt mean a thread about "how to get a girl in bed same day" should be deleted) but the threads i mentioned above...almost unreadable grammar, whiner threads, threads with general issues covered a million times (how do i get a girl to like me/!?>!) personally, i wouldn't miss those at all.

my vote: yes, enforce the rules
 

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LikRetsam said:
How many posts like this have I seen across my 6 years here...
It's been a little over four years for me, but that is still long enough to know that this forum is continuing to go downhill. If people took the time to search the forums for the answer to their question (because it has been answered already, and you know it), or simply didn't post their pointless questions, we'd be better off. Also, forum trolls (they may actually be as stupid as they seem in their posts, but I doubt it) just need to be banned, no matter how amusing they are.
 

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But you guys have to understand the bible doesn't have the answers for everything it doesn't cover how to deal with bullying and other life situations.These forum is to help people any question should be helped.Its like GOD will help anyone even the question seems lame,but to that person its important.
(at least hearing a kid whine about his pathetic life is humorous).dannowillbookem thats not funny,dude if your life was hard you would not want someone to make fun of you,man just shut up!
 

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dreamx said:
But you guys have to understand the bible doesn't have the answers for everything it doesn't cover how to deal with bullying and other life situations.These forum is to help people any question should be helped.Its like GOD will help anyone even the question seems lame,but to that person its important.
(at least hearing a kid whine about his pathetic life is humorous).dannowillbookem thats not funny,dude if your life was hard you would not want someone to make fun of you,man just shut up!
no starting arguments over unnecessary stuff. i used to have a life like yours. i dont anymore.

the bible points out necessary points of ****y and funny that will help diffuse bully situations. either that, or just avoid the bullies. its what i do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I agree with Danno 100%. As seen on my post your pics and myspace thread, he happens to be one of the few good looking guys/djs on this forum. So show some respect *****es :p
 

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dreamx said:
But you guys have to understand the bible doesn't have the answers for everything it doesn't cover how to deal with bullying and other life situations.These forum is to help people any question should be helped.Its like GOD will help anyone even the question seems lame,but to that person its important.
(at least hearing a kid whine about his pathetic life is humorous).dannowillbookem thats not funny,dude if your life was hard you would not want someone to make fun of you,man just shut up!
Keep in mind that SoSuave focuses mainly on getting girls. This isn't a "self-help" forum where you just dump your problems and seek help. At least not to the best of my knowledge. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong.
 

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SoSuave is a forum that deals is mainly girls,I agree but I ask these questions because you first have to work on your inner game(which for me includes depression,life,thoughts of suicide,parents mainly dad,how to be popular,not being bullied and other issues)so which means inner game comes first before you start focusing on the girls.What I learned on here is if your not happy with your life you won't be happy with a girl either,it may make things worser.
 

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somehow you guys always get in arguments that contribute little to the subject.

but good point, dreamx. a girl will not make you happy.
 

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dannowillbookem said:
somehow you guys always get in arguments that contribute little to the subject.

but good point, dreamx. a girl will not make you happy.
:yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ANYWAYS

lets make a resolution to stop the pointless flaming? if someone says something stupipd or pointless or rediculous or insulting, just ignore it. you'll look more the man for it, anyways.
 

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does it really matter what the current state of the board is? The information that is useful is already posted and archived. Can we realistically expect the contributions to be as useful as the beginning when there was no knowledge of the game?
 

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of course it matters. we all have situations we dont know how to deal with, views on subjects that havent been stated and advice that comes to us only when helping others.

so are you with us in an effort to stop the flaming?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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