spider_007
Master Don Juan
ahhh, the famous "just be your self"
too bad, lot of people DON'T UNDERSTAND what it really means.
too bad, lot of people DON'T UNDERSTAND what it really means.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
shezz i respect you and all, but this -no offence- sounds like theoretical/philosophical babble to me.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
What do you mean? WTF?
Explain
Sarge On...
With you the "minus" bit. All in all, in regard to dating women we have too MUCH stuff in our heads. Not too little.Your right - however, what im saying - is, go back to your roots - minus the AFCness - we are outside the matrix - others dont Know any better -but if they are willing to shed the AFCness then go back - they will be better for it obviously - just taking the same shell and mindset and throwing a few routines in will show very little improvement...funnily enough, its sites like this that take us further away from being men than we actually want to be.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Why does it not surprise me that you don't like this post and consider it "babbling"?L777 said:shezz i respect you and all, but this -no offence- sounds like theoretical/philosophical babble to me.
I wasn't a 'natural' at all, so routines and stuff is how i got started, now its more of my own personality if ya know what I mean....but I think to call someone who does what he has to do to get laid a 'robot' is harsh in the extreme.
Believe it ot not, I actually ENJOY sex with different women, its not just a front or a shell...maybe ill settle down when i'm 30, or start paying attention to emotions and feelings and all that...but theres really nothing wrong with being (or trying to be) a PUA, no matter how you go about it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.