spider_007
Master Don Juan
ahhh, the famous "just be your self"
too bad, lot of people DON'T UNDERSTAND what it really means.
too bad, lot of people DON'T UNDERSTAND what it really means.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
shezz i respect you and all, but this -no offence- sounds like theoretical/philosophical babble to me.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
What do you mean? WTF?
Explain
Sarge On...
With you the "minus" bit. All in all, in regard to dating women we have too MUCH stuff in our heads. Not too little.Your right - however, what im saying - is, go back to your roots - minus the AFCness - we are outside the matrix - others dont Know any better -but if they are willing to shed the AFCness then go back - they will be better for it obviously - just taking the same shell and mindset and throwing a few routines in will show very little improvement...funnily enough, its sites like this that take us further away from being men than we actually want to be.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why does it not surprise me that you don't like this post and consider it "babbling"?L777 said:shezz i respect you and all, but this -no offence- sounds like theoretical/philosophical babble to me.
I wasn't a 'natural' at all, so routines and stuff is how i got started, now its more of my own personality if ya know what I mean....but I think to call someone who does what he has to do to get laid a 'robot' is harsh in the extreme.
Believe it ot not, I actually ENJOY sex with different women, its not just a front or a shell...maybe ill settle down when i'm 30, or start paying attention to emotions and feelings and all that...but theres really nothing wrong with being (or trying to be) a PUA, no matter how you go about it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.