"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The delayed "I have a boyfriend"

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Started a new class two weeks ago on Tuesday.

Met a girl. Flirted with her during the downtime. We exchanged numbers. She texted me first just to BS. I called a few days later to ask her out. She seemed excited (called me "sweetie" on the phone) but was having a medical procedure done so she was going to be home for the next few days and she couldn't go out.

Tonight in class she was on crutches. I neg'd her a little and then said that I was going to get some coffee on campus and that she should come. She said that her leg hurt and that she needed to get home but thanks for asking.

That's normally my two strikes, but I figured maybe this is special circumstance.

So I just text her a few days later and found out she has a BF.

I'm thinking of nexting (bc of boyfriend) but I will have to see her for the next 12 weeks in this class.

1. Should I straight out ignore this chick or just talk if she initiates?

2. Why the F would she wait that long to tell me she has a serious BF? If I had a serious GF I wouldn't even give my number out, let alone talk to some strange chick on the phone - and if she asked me out on the phone I would tell her THEN. Not the THIRD TIME I asked her.

MY UPDATE: Yes I agree with all below - two rejections plus BF = next!
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Syrio

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Honestly if I were you I'd keep her as a friend. I don't understand why people on this website are so all about "nexting" a girl because she's not interested in a relationship. Girls have lots of girl friends who you can meet! Having friends who are girls is so beneficial for meeting women you actually DO have a shot with. Unless you genuinely dislike something about her I don't see why not keep her as a friend. As long as you can recognize that nothing is going to happen between you two, I feel like remaining friends can only be a good thing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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donking

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Most guys only have true friendships with girls they have f u cked.

OP cannot have this girl as a real friend. Find another girl to spend ur time on.
 
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