The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
I remember a seasoned member here mentioned this when probing a new user to turn cheek about the misfortunes of his break up with a girlfriend. What does it mean to live on inside of an ex's head?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The Definition of Living On Inside an Ex's Head
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Desdinova
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If you can give her an extremely thoughtful gift, you will make a permanent dent in her mind. She will forever keep that damn thing, and will pop back into your life every few years hoping to re-kindle how much you cared about her, and how thoughtful you were towards her.
The best thing to do is reject her. She's doing it only for selfish reasons and NOT because she's learned her lesson.
The best thing to do is reject her. She's doing it only for selfish reasons and NOT because she's learned her lesson.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
I think you live on in an ex's head when you follow the SS advice on breakups to a T. No emotion, agree with her, and that's it.
At the end of every classic western, John Wayne or Clint Eastwood sais something stoically poignant and rides off on his horse, the damsel standing on the porch longing for the return of this mysterious man who came and went like the wind. He didn't act like a weak beggar, he was a man of character and went where HE was going, not where he thought SHE would want him to go.
That is the metaphor I picture for living on in your ex's head-you don't cry or beg or act like a pvssy in any way, you tip your hat and ride away.
And when you have TRULY arrived, the desire to live on in her head will not exist, it will simply manifest as a result of who you are.
At the end of every classic western, John Wayne or Clint Eastwood sais something stoically poignant and rides off on his horse, the damsel standing on the porch longing for the return of this mysterious man who came and went like the wind. He didn't act like a weak beggar, he was a man of character and went where HE was going, not where he thought SHE would want him to go.
That is the metaphor I picture for living on in your ex's head-you don't cry or beg or act like a pvssy in any way, you tip your hat and ride away.
And when you have TRULY arrived, the desire to live on in her head will not exist, it will simply manifest as a result of who you are.
real life example: after breaking up with my last gf I went no contact on her. She kept txting/calling me for about 2 years... To this day, common friends tell me she's still asking about me and what's going on my life.