"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Definition of "Closure"

Desdinova

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At the end of any relationship, many people say they need "closure". So what they do is contact the person they've broken up with and chat with them. After the meeting or conversation, their emotions are running wild and they feel worse than before they started looking for this mysterious thing called "closure".

Women are horrible for wanting "closure". To them, closure is continuing to converse with their ex until their emotions calm down. How the hell do you get the word "closure" out of this?

I looked up web definitions of the word "closure". This was, by far, the best way to put it:

http://www.google.ca/search?hl=en&lr=&defl=en&q=define:Closure&sa=X&oi=glossary_definition&ct=title

The procedure a landfill operator must follow when a landfill reaches its legal capacity for solid waste: ceasing acceptance of solid waste and placing a cap on the landfill site. No more waste can be accepted and a cap usually is placed over the site.

In other words, not taking any more crap!

Another way to look at it, the word "closure" comes from the word "close". IMO, the word "closure" refers to closing a particular chapter on one's life, and moving on to start a new chapter. It makes more sense than looking for emotional satisfaction at the end of a relationship, which rarely (if it ever) happens.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Try not to use IMO it weakens the argument. It's obvious that its your opinion.

What make you decide to post about this?

Unfortunatly, I've never been in that situation so I can't relate to that. Maybe it'll help out others.

Anomalous Out...
 

Spike_the_Dragon

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I broke up with my ex a little over a year ago, and she still to this day keeps calling me wanting "closure" on our relationship... meanwhile I've been engaged for the past six months to a really good woman.

My ex actually threatened to kill me and my new fiancee awhile back if I didn't take her back...

Anyways, good post. Makes me feel glad I got that restraining order.:D
 

hardwork

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5hit! Where was this advice two months ago?

Desdinova said:
IMO, the word "closure" refers to closing a particular chapter on one's life, and moving on to start a new chapter. It makes more sense than looking for emotional satisfaction at the end of a relationship, which rarely (if it ever) happens.
Exactly.
 

diplomatic_lies

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Closure is when you f*ck another woman :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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diplomatic_lies said:
Closure is when you f*ck another woman :D

add* that means something to you.


Amen! Its not just shagging other women thow. I tapped plenty of ass after my oneitis and still felt strong. You need to find another girl you care for.....Then your like oneitiswho?

Closure to me is knowing that both parties are ok with the action taken.....This is NEVER EVER EVER going to happen......1 person will always want back.
 
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