"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Definition of "Closure"

Desdinova

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At the end of any relationship, many people say they need "closure". So what they do is contact the person they've broken up with and chat with them. After the meeting or conversation, their emotions are running wild and they feel worse than before they started looking for this mysterious thing called "closure".

Women are horrible for wanting "closure". To them, closure is continuing to converse with their ex until their emotions calm down. How the hell do you get the word "closure" out of this?

I looked up web definitions of the word "closure". This was, by far, the best way to put it:

http://www.google.ca/search?hl=en&lr=&defl=en&q=define:Closure&sa=X&oi=glossary_definition&ct=title

The procedure a landfill operator must follow when a landfill reaches its legal capacity for solid waste: ceasing acceptance of solid waste and placing a cap on the landfill site. No more waste can be accepted and a cap usually is placed over the site.

In other words, not taking any more crap!

Another way to look at it, the word "closure" comes from the word "close". IMO, the word "closure" refers to closing a particular chapter on one's life, and moving on to start a new chapter. It makes more sense than looking for emotional satisfaction at the end of a relationship, which rarely (if it ever) happens.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Try not to use IMO it weakens the argument. It's obvious that its your opinion.

What make you decide to post about this?

Unfortunatly, I've never been in that situation so I can't relate to that. Maybe it'll help out others.

Anomalous Out...
 

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I broke up with my ex a little over a year ago, and she still to this day keeps calling me wanting "closure" on our relationship... meanwhile I've been engaged for the past six months to a really good woman.

My ex actually threatened to kill me and my new fiancee awhile back if I didn't take her back...

Anyways, good post. Makes me feel glad I got that restraining order.:D
 

hardwork

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5hit! Where was this advice two months ago?

Desdinova said:
IMO, the word "closure" refers to closing a particular chapter on one's life, and moving on to start a new chapter. It makes more sense than looking for emotional satisfaction at the end of a relationship, which rarely (if it ever) happens.
Exactly.
 

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Closure is when you f*ck another woman :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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diplomatic_lies said:
Closure is when you f*ck another woman :D

add* that means something to you.


Amen! Its not just shagging other women thow. I tapped plenty of ass after my oneitis and still felt strong. You need to find another girl you care for.....Then your like oneitiswho?

Closure to me is knowing that both parties are ok with the action taken.....This is NEVER EVER EVER going to happen......1 person will always want back.
 
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