Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Dark Triad Test

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Vice

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Interesting results. I had to refrain from "trying" to get a certain score and choosing "strongly agree/disagree" sparingly.
 

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M 56, higher than 30% of peers.
N 68, higher than 71% of peers.
P 39, higher than 37% of peers.

It's good to be a member of the dark brotherhood.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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zekko

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Atom Smasher said:
M 56, higher than 30% of peers.
N 68, higher than 71% of peers.
P 39, higher than 37% of peers.

It's good to be a member of the dark brotherhood.
Wouldn't those results indicate that you have less dark triad traits than the average man? Aside from your rampant narcissism apparently, lol.

I'm surprised OK Cupid is pushing this type of article, shows how much PUA stuff is finding its way into the mainstream.

I still don't think psychopathy is attractive to women. Being narcissistic is probably neutral. Being machiavellian (manipulative) means that you can influence others to do your will, so that would attract women to you almost by definition. IMO.
 

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You scored 81% on Machiavellianism, higher than 83% of your peers.
You scored 68% on Narcissism, higher than 71% of your peers.
You scored 61% on Psychopathy, higher than 75% of your peers.

Oh boy. Now if only I could figure out how to make some fvcking money i'd be straight.
 

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83% Machiavellianism, higher than 84% of your peers.
53% Narcissism, higher than 31% of your peers.
55% Psychopathy!, higher than 66% of your peers.

Hmm....
 

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This site's a riot! I can't stop trollin those bıtches now lmao. Here's my psycho test results:

You scored 61Machiavellianism, 46 Narcissism, 39 Psychopathy!

Ranges for the factors tracked in this test are as follows:

Machiavellianism

25% is roughly normal range.
60% of more is the level for a personality disorder.

Narcissism

25% is roughly normal range.
60% or more is the level for a personality disorder.

Psychopathy

20% is roughly normal range.
Non-psychopathic compulsive criminals range between 45% and 55%.
If you have a score of 75% or more, it's more than likely that you are a psychopath.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Vice said:
Interesting results. I had to refrain from "trying" to get a certain score and choosing "strongly agree/disagree" sparingly.
I'm assuming you were wanting to get a high score on this. It's funny, only in PUA world would guys aspire to score highly on a test testing for personality disorders.
 

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zekko said:
I'm assuming you were wanting to get a high score on this. It's funny, only in PUA world would guys aspire to score highly on a test testing for personality disorders.
But I scored the highest. I'm not a pua at all. I've never had to put much thought or effort into the women I've been with. Usually they are just naturally attracted to me based on my personality. Also all the women I've been with, I was with before i found sosuave, or pua sites.
 

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...as far as validity and reliability goes. Cool test.
 

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I'm not so sure I'd place too much weight in this test. I scored very low. According to this article I should be a complete loser. Yet, I do just fine with women.

M 19
N 26
P 6

I'm less than 1% of the people who have taken this test.
 

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Mr.Positive said:
I'm not so sure I'd place too much weight in this test. I scored very low. According to this article I should be a complete loser. Yet, I do just fine with women.

M 19
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I'm less than 1% of the people who have taken this test.
Or maybe too many people put weight into this "Dark Triad". You doing fine with women and scoring much less than average in the Dark Triad traits is completely fine. If people met true narcissistic, and psychopathic people in their lives, they would understand it is something to not emulate. I don't consider myself scoring very high on this yet I do fine with women. Dark Triad is the equivalent of horoscopes for women, except aimed at Heartiste's readers. Heartiste gives good advice from time to time, but at the crux of it, he is an entertainer. And these DT tests are all another version of the e-d1ck measuring contest known since the beginning of the internet.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Reading some of those questions I'm not sure I WANT to be in the Dark Triad. I will stay here with my long term platonic friendships and lack of criminal record.

Life is easier this way. I don't think you need to be like this to get laid either. You might have to be this way to get super rich but again, I'm comfortable here.
 

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Also I'm more narcissistic than I'd like to be. Less than my peers but only narcissistic peers would take a test like this!
 

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ArcBound said:
Or maybe too many people put weight into this "Dark Triad". You doing fine with women and scoring much less than average in the Dark Triad traits is completely fine. If people met true narcissistic, and psychopathic people in their lives, they would understand it is something to not emulate. I don't consider myself scoring very high on this yet I do fine with women. Dark Triad is the equivalent of horoscopes for women, except aimed at Heartiste's readers. Heartiste gives good advice from time to time, but at the crux of it, he is an entertainer. And these DT tests are all another version of the e-d1ck measuring contest known since the beginning of the internet.
Totally agree.

Mr. Positive said:
I'm less than 1% of the people who have taken this test.
I don't buy into all the Dark Triad stuff, but even if you did: Maybe there is some value to being on the extreme opposite end of the spectrum.
 
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