"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The confessional

Psycho`Sexual

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I think, it would be very helpful to this website if we had a confessional forum.

Perhaps it could just be a stickied Thread, if you dont want to go to the trouble of making a forum.

But i consider it very importantly for becoming DJ's to talk about their AFC behaviour. Talking about your problems DOES help to face them.

Also soon the forum would grow, filled with stories, and when an AFC comes here, he wont feel as bad about having AFCish tendencies.

Thusly he will be much more likely to notice aspects about himself wich he doesnt like, and therefore would be on a road to recovery much faster.

As opposed to being faced with DJ "masters" and all sorts f smart people giving excellent advice, the afc will come to associate with the other members of the forums, thereby being himself more honest, and less offended at being flamed.


All in all, tihs will help drastically with improving forum quality, and also helping a LOT of the people coming here to face their problems and grow.

Sort of like a support group for rape victims, except with AFC's.


Let me know what you people think.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Eternal

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Nah, I think we should sticky "Your Most AFC move" and "Most Obvious Come-On Missed." No flames are in there, just people going "ah man, same thing happened to me, I want to kick my own ass!"
 

Eternal

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Originally posted by iqqi
all you have to do is a search under the person's name, and go to their first post! :p :eek:
Lol, only problem is, half of the people on this board had thier first post deleted because of the timer on the posts.
 

oreo_renegade

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Originally posted by iqqi
all you have to do is a search under the person's name, and go to their first post! :p :eek:
yeah, like some loser AFC is going to do that, and what about the peopel who keep changing their screen names?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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