"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The concept of "fractionization"

ArmyStrong90

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So I have been reading a lot of "Alabaster Girl" by Zan Perrion and at this point of my life, 24 year old senior in college and a fraternity, I feel that his 'style' is what will get you labeled as the proverbial nice guy. I say this because as opposed to what a lot of youngsters do these days his style is stress free and more, respecting the girl, no PUA techniques and HONESY all while having fun about it and not being soo serious. Problem with this is, I was (now a graduate) around a lot of attractive girls who are used to "****boys" how Zan conducts himself around women would scare the hell out of these 20-24 year old sorority girls because they would automatically take it as if the guy is trying to be in some kind of committed relationship with them off the cuff or a blatant creep (*Zan does state that he winks at random girls and smile--I know its playful, but a lot of these young girls would be put off unless of course they find you hot) I still read Zan Perrion's book as I see a lot of truth in what he says and because my natural instinct is to be the type of man Perrion categorizes as a "ladies man" now I heard a lot about the concept of fractionization and how it is a "manipulative" technique that goes deep inside the mind of a woman, yet I am conflicted (at this stage of my life) about meeting talking to girls Perrion's way or being coy and strategic in how I conduct myself around girls.

any tips guys??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You're right. I'm in college as well and would never act that way. Keep reading as its good to test your beliefs but continue to go with your gut. At least in the college setting.
 

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As a 24 year old frat boy, you don't need to use "hypnosis techniques" to get women.

All you need is a plate full of margarita Jello shots.

No longer a frat boy man. Graduated a month ago and now trying to a bit more serious in the dating game and meet actual women rather than the "barbies" I have been around for the past 3 years.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Truth be told.. Now that I'm older and been doing this for a while..

You don't need to be cocky and funny
You don't need to neg
You don't need to time out text messages
You don't need to put on a dominate fascade

All you need is to be confident, fun and escalate.
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I still subscribe to not tolerating disrespect though.
 
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