You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I know, but I feel like I went to Avon Grove for coach, and felt like skipping this game is something I should do for me.NorwegianDJ said:A bit selfish. I think this has the opportunity to teach you a lot. Look at it differently and approach it in a way that works out for everyone.
Consider everything that has led up to you crying. Im sure you read my journal and you can surely relate to when it happened to me. See if you can learn from it. It makes you a lot better.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What would you recommend doing then?Jack Wealthy said:Stay positive man. Drink some tea and be classy like me.
I used to play volleyball too and I usually got 3/4 play time even though I was one of the weaker players. The reason why is because I was a really good sportsmen in general. I would always encourage everyone before the game and shake hands with all the other teams players.
For the senior week thing I'd say it's a weekend that has to be memorable and to make it memorable it has to be an adventure. If it's just you guys going out together it will be exactly like every school day before it, if it's just going to bars it will be just like every weekend after it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yes Nick it is worth the hassle because otherwise we could all get arrested for possesion of marijuana...Nick1886 said:Let them smoke man, is it really worth the hassle otherwise?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Cmon man...it's my location, every time I post.apocolipto said:Loved the story!! I wish something like that could happen to me!
Where do you live?
Exactly what I was trying to say before I got told off for speaking sense. In don't know about the US but getting caught with a joint in the UK isnt an arrestable offence anyway, people just tend to ignore itLearningSlowly said:I'm sure you know already that you overreacted about weed. Many people view it as less of a drug than alcohol. I know you're worried about legality, but honestly, a lot of people smoke on the beach. I'm sure nothing bad would have happened. Encourage people to have fun, don't discourage it.
I don't think I overreacted about the weed. My request was simple and I was effectively lied to after I thought the issue had been taken care of.LearningSlowly said:I'm sure you know already that you overreacted about weed. Many people view it as less of a drug than alcohol. I know you're worried about legality, but honestly, a lot of people smoke on the beach. I'm sure nothing bad would have happened. Encourage people to have fun, don't discourage it.
About Gianina... hmm. Sounds like you're placing a lot of importance on sex. To the extent that she felt you didn't want to actually see her, just wanted to have sex with her. Next time become really close with one of her friends and get her to wing you (one drunken emotional conversation where you reveal small secrets to one another will generally make this bond). Then say "Help me get Gianina alone" and she can probably distract the other friend.
You got mad options right now. I wouldn't drive that far with Brianna though, just fvck her in the car near her house. Also, meet some new girls, so you can keep the momentum up.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.