Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I know, but I feel like I went to Avon Grove for coach, and felt like skipping this game is something I should do for me.NorwegianDJ said:A bit selfish. I think this has the opportunity to teach you a lot. Look at it differently and approach it in a way that works out for everyone.
Consider everything that has led up to you crying. Im sure you read my journal and you can surely relate to when it happened to me. See if you can learn from it. It makes you a lot better.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What would you recommend doing then?Jack Wealthy said:Stay positive man. Drink some tea and be classy like me.
I used to play volleyball too and I usually got 3/4 play time even though I was one of the weaker players. The reason why is because I was a really good sportsmen in general. I would always encourage everyone before the game and shake hands with all the other teams players.
For the senior week thing I'd say it's a weekend that has to be memorable and to make it memorable it has to be an adventure. If it's just you guys going out together it will be exactly like every school day before it, if it's just going to bars it will be just like every weekend after it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes Nick it is worth the hassle because otherwise we could all get arrested for possesion of marijuana...Nick1886 said:Let them smoke man, is it really worth the hassle otherwise?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Cmon man...it's my location, every time I post.apocolipto said:Loved the story!! I wish something like that could happen to me!
Where do you live?
Exactly what I was trying to say before I got told off for speaking sense. In don't know about the US but getting caught with a joint in the UK isnt an arrestable offence anyway, people just tend to ignore itLearningSlowly said:I'm sure you know already that you overreacted about weed. Many people view it as less of a drug than alcohol. I know you're worried about legality, but honestly, a lot of people smoke on the beach. I'm sure nothing bad would have happened. Encourage people to have fun, don't discourage it.
I don't think I overreacted about the weed. My request was simple and I was effectively lied to after I thought the issue had been taken care of.LearningSlowly said:I'm sure you know already that you overreacted about weed. Many people view it as less of a drug than alcohol. I know you're worried about legality, but honestly, a lot of people smoke on the beach. I'm sure nothing bad would have happened. Encourage people to have fun, don't discourage it.
About Gianina... hmm. Sounds like you're placing a lot of importance on sex. To the extent that she felt you didn't want to actually see her, just wanted to have sex with her. Next time become really close with one of her friends and get her to wing you (one drunken emotional conversation where you reveal small secrets to one another will generally make this bond). Then say "Help me get Gianina alone" and she can probably distract the other friend.
You got mad options right now. I wouldn't drive that far with Brianna though, just fvck her in the car near her house. Also, meet some new girls, so you can keep the momentum up.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.