LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Im going to get a new passport in the morning, but yeah you definitely can. Gotta think about what to tell my parents. I'll talk to you on facebook.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeah Josh recommended something along the lines of referring to my car as the "sexmobile", but I'll describe that more in a little bit.Jack Wealthy said:I used to hate your texting, now I don't mind it. I still don't like it. It just seems corny, like you're texting her while pulling the troll face or something. But the actual direction you text is good, you're a bit too easy to get but that's a problem I only just got over. I would reccomend less sexualisation of them (less compliments, cutie, I was thinkin about you, etc.) and more sexualization of yourself and the scenario. Like "this beach we're going to is sexy." or more likely something about you to interacting, over texting you can be ultra confronting like that and say stuff that would normally be forward.
Also, nice to read something new man. Push it.
Jelly of meeting up with Josh![]()
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Which girl? HB Destiny?Jack Wealthy said:About the one before that one: Take steps back, give her room, then come back in.
Thanks man, nice to hear from you for onceMindgamez said:Well done BPH. Man it sucks for you guys for loosing your targets at the party. BPH, I like how you stepped back from Grace and told Learning about the situation. I would've done the same for my bro.
About the mall when you had a terrible reaction, did you tell her about her behavior?
Too bad obhe was shyer than you guys. I'm around this level myself and I'm still taking small steps.
It's great to have a friend from the forum with you so you can analyse what you did and think about what you've done right or wrong. You seem like a cool dude BPH![]()
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Write about it? Start a journal bro.ohbe said:Had a great time with you guysGlad the forums are back up.
Hmm. Just the fact that its a facebook message makes me not too happy about this one. But hey, I got my only LTR by messaging her on facebook. I was kinda goofy though, plowed through any creepiness and sent her a video of a chimp on a segway and just kept talking.BPH said:After that I just walk away and everything's fine. Then later on Facebook I find her and decide to message here, and here's how that went:
Me: Hey are you that girl I met at work today?
Her: yeah!
Me: I don't want this to be weird but you are really sexy, are you free this saturday?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Don't. If she won't reply to a facebook message, she definitely won't give you her number.BPH said:Might chill with HB Carla this weekend. I don't have work this weekend so I won't be seeing HB Alex. By the way, she has not replied to my Facebook message. I'm thinking about either waiting another week until I see her, or just messaging her again to give me her number.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.