Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It's a picture I took from my phone, I have it in my e-mail but I'm not sure what I have to do with it to put it online in a link.StormScar said:Where can I see that picture of yours? I'm really curious of your progress...For how long have you been working out?
google it.BPH said:It's a picture I took from my phone, I have it in my e-mail but I'm not sure what I have to do with it to put it online in a link.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's not the point.Pair A Dice said:What did she pull this time? All she said was that she was busy and couldn't talk.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Think you'll be able to approach at work at all?BPH said:I was surprised, by the end about 3 cute girls came in, and in all the times I've worked out, I've never seen a doable girl walk into this gym.
Anyway that's about it, oh and HB Kaitlin flaked again. 3 strikes, that b!tch is OUT.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Hmm I don't think so. She's been playing him, going no contact is the best option right now. It'll show that he has some self respect, and she'll start trying to win him over (or she'll go find other guys to leech attention off of, and that's fine too) and from there she won't flake on a date.NorwegianDJ said:I dont really do the 3 strikes thing if I dont have any girls on the side. Just invite her to places that from now on it doesnt require effort to get to. Like your house, somewhere close, at school, etc.
I've been sensing this a lot lately. I think you need to get back into the headspace you were in when you first picked up Kaitlin and you'll find yourself with a lot more opportunity than you think.BPH said:Now I'm a little annoyed by my difficulty with women.
I don't think it's my mindset really. I think that it's more the factors that I described, because if I meet a girl that's super interested I really don't have a place to take her and then I must rely on her.LearningSlowly said:I've been sensing this a lot lately. I think you need to get back into the headspace you were in when you first picked up Kaitlin and you'll find yourself with a lot more opportunity than you think.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.