Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It's a picture I took from my phone, I have it in my e-mail but I'm not sure what I have to do with it to put it online in a link.StormScar said:Where can I see that picture of yours? I'm really curious of your progress...For how long have you been working out?
google it.BPH said:It's a picture I took from my phone, I have it in my e-mail but I'm not sure what I have to do with it to put it online in a link.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's not the point.Pair A Dice said:What did she pull this time? All she said was that she was busy and couldn't talk.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think you'll be able to approach at work at all?BPH said:I was surprised, by the end about 3 cute girls came in, and in all the times I've worked out, I've never seen a doable girl walk into this gym.
Anyway that's about it, oh and HB Kaitlin flaked again. 3 strikes, that b!tch is OUT.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hmm I don't think so. She's been playing him, going no contact is the best option right now. It'll show that he has some self respect, and she'll start trying to win him over (or she'll go find other guys to leech attention off of, and that's fine too) and from there she won't flake on a date.NorwegianDJ said:I dont really do the 3 strikes thing if I dont have any girls on the side. Just invite her to places that from now on it doesnt require effort to get to. Like your house, somewhere close, at school, etc.
I've been sensing this a lot lately. I think you need to get back into the headspace you were in when you first picked up Kaitlin and you'll find yourself with a lot more opportunity than you think.BPH said:Now I'm a little annoyed by my difficulty with women.
I don't think it's my mindset really. I think that it's more the factors that I described, because if I meet a girl that's super interested I really don't have a place to take her and then I must rely on her.LearningSlowly said:I've been sensing this a lot lately. I think you need to get back into the headspace you were in when you first picked up Kaitlin and you'll find yourself with a lot more opportunity than you think.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.