"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The chick at work...

DJ Wrangler

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Alright so here's the deal;

Most of the time its rather easy for me to land dates with girls because i may only see them once or twice a week, whether it be in passing (because we are creatures of habit) or in class.

So how would u guys go about handling the chick at work? Who I see four to five times a week?

Its just confused the hell out of me. I know there is some mutual interest and we flirt and occasionally "talk dirty" (I work in a restaurant.)

So let me have it; the good and the bad!

Thanks guys,

Wrangler
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skel

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DJ Wrangler said:
So how would u guys go about handling the chick at work?
I wouldnt. Don't mess with girls at work unless you dont give 2 ****s about your job:nono:
 

Thatfeel21

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im having that same "problem" at work..only thing is, i know shes doing it for attenton cuz i know she has a boyfriend..
 

DonJuan11

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Skel said:
I wouldnt. Don't mess with girls at work unless you dont give 2 ****s about your job:nono:

I don't like when people say don't get involved with girls at work.

Then you have to set him up with a girl he is attracted to. You can't tell him to forget about her but then not help him (find a girl)
 

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I would just go for it. I admit I always hear dont do it but why? and let me tell you the only problem is if you guys dump each other you might hate seeing her thats about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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killbill said:
I would just go for it. I admit I always hear dont do it but why? and let me tell you the only problem is if you guys dump each other you might hate seeing her thats about it.
1. You'll be spending too much time together.

2. It'll be difficult not to bring a current personal problem (during a fight, etc.) to work.

3. As you said, when you break up, she's still right there every day.
 
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