"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Cardinal Rule of Relationships

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I absolutely agree cos its happened to me on several occasions, i.e power shifting from the other party to me simply because i exhibited behaviors (moving on to date other people after an initial rejection and giving no rats ass) that sent clear messages that i didn't need them anymore.

Now they call me, asking for dates and 'hang outs', calling to see if i'm ok etc.

It's like magic except it's freaking real!.
 
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By nature, genetic design, as created by God, the man is at the forefront, the powerhouse, the power, behind the relationship with the female - the woman is always in need of the male more so than the male in need of the female -- the homo/hor agenda of the 20th century has artificially changed this balance to the detriment of both parties involved and and to society - thus the rampant social familial ills we face today!!!

Men, by default, have the power and thus control over the female unless there has been an artificial contrivance to make it otherwise!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So true...I even have a recent example to back it up.

Cute girl in my bedroom, after the first date....we're watching my band on youtube....I'm kinoing, she's receptive...then I ASK if I can kiss her (weak I know, but I wasn't thinking). She says, 'its too early' and gets up to leave....I say "I'll see you again though, right?" To which she replies "Sure."

Needless to say, we haven't done anything to this day.

I'm usually decent at closing, but I read this one wrong....I think I wasn't more agressive because I really liked her.

Anyway, the point is, the whole relationship dynamic changed from ME in control to HER in control from then on....and girls need a challenge.

Don't make the same mistake. I know i won't do it again.
 
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But RT there is really symbiosis going on. Your boss doesn't need you, but he needs somebody, otherwise he is out of business. Like the old Abbott and Costello routine, "I get it, you're the boss and I'm nothing. Some boss, boss over nothing."
 
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kanaka said:
I absolutely agree cos its happened to me on several occasions, i.e power shifting from the other party to me simply because i exhibited behaviors (moving on to date other people after an initial rejection and giving no rats ass) that sent clear messages that i didn't need them anymore.

Now they call me, asking for dates and 'hang outs', calling to see if i'm ok etc.

It's like magic except it's freaking real!.
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Its happed me too but no more. I realise the mistake I made and won't be making another.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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