Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The calm thread of relax

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Dating can be stressful. We help each other out when we need help or a different perspective of looking at things. Sometimes we just have to step back from it all and recharge. Physical exertion in martial arts, hitting the weights hard in the gym, running are some of the best ways to cope with stress and have fun. That's why alone time is so important so that we can feel refreshed to face another day.

This thread is for us to reflect on what helps us recharge and feel happy when we're not consumed with the opposite sex. ;)

Here are a few things that relax me:

zen gardens


waterfalls


mountain & lake views


chilling in a hammock (hope to get a man's best friend someday too)


crackle sound of a campfire and staring into the blaze
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
 

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Cool stuff. I like the zen garden. Never tried it but I've always meant to.

I like walking in a Labyrinth too.

http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate-in-a-Labyrinth

I have been able to unlock some of the more hidden creative and intelligent (very hidden) parts of my mind when doing so.
 

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@playa99 - Awesome man. You'll like headspace. My other two favorite meditation apps are "Calm" (subscription based unfortunately) and "Meditation Studio" (free). With headspace, I did that take 10 for 10 days and learned a lot about my thoughts and how to recognize them and clear the mechanism so I can be free from distraction.

@FairShake - Have you heard of Escape Rooms? The girl I've been seeing for two months took me on a surprise date to this venue where you enter a room and have to search for clues within the room to get to the next room and to the finish line in a hour. You have to have teamwork and the ability to problem solve in tandem. You get a walkie talkie and are are allowed to ask the gamemaster for two clues during those 60 minutes. Check Groupon to see if they offer it in your city.
 

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
The more consistently you meditate the more easy it is to eliminate/tune out distractive thoughts (boredom). Over time it gets easier and easier to quiet your mind. Repetition.

Set small tangible goals to accomplish everyday in regards to meditation. For example, set aside only FIVE minutes a day to meditate and do it everyday for a week, add two minutes every week.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chill time with this rain and thunder video (good white noise too, if you need to block out background distractions)...


Waterfall:


Tropical beach:

 
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