"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The calm thread of relax

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Dating can be stressful. We help each other out when we need help or a different perspective of looking at things. Sometimes we just have to step back from it all and recharge. Physical exertion in martial arts, hitting the weights hard in the gym, running are some of the best ways to cope with stress and have fun. That's why alone time is so important so that we can feel refreshed to face another day.

This thread is for us to reflect on what helps us recharge and feel happy when we're not consumed with the opposite sex. ;)

Here are a few things that relax me:

zen gardens


waterfalls


mountain & lake views


chilling in a hammock (hope to get a man's best friend someday too)


crackle sound of a campfire and staring into the blaze
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
 

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Cool stuff. I like the zen garden. Never tried it but I've always meant to.

I like walking in a Labyrinth too.

http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate-in-a-Labyrinth

I have been able to unlock some of the more hidden creative and intelligent (very hidden) parts of my mind when doing so.
 

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@playa99 - Awesome man. You'll like headspace. My other two favorite meditation apps are "Calm" (subscription based unfortunately) and "Meditation Studio" (free). With headspace, I did that take 10 for 10 days and learned a lot about my thoughts and how to recognize them and clear the mechanism so I can be free from distraction.

@FairShake - Have you heard of Escape Rooms? The girl I've been seeing for two months took me on a surprise date to this venue where you enter a room and have to search for clues within the room to get to the next room and to the finish line in a hour. You have to have teamwork and the ability to problem solve in tandem. You get a walkie talkie and are are allowed to ask the gamemaster for two clues during those 60 minutes. Check Groupon to see if they offer it in your city.
 

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
The more consistently you meditate the more easy it is to eliminate/tune out distractive thoughts (boredom). Over time it gets easier and easier to quiet your mind. Repetition.

Set small tangible goals to accomplish everyday in regards to meditation. For example, set aside only FIVE minutes a day to meditate and do it everyday for a week, add two minutes every week.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Chill time with this rain and thunder video (good white noise too, if you need to block out background distractions)...


Waterfall:


Tropical beach:

 
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