"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The calm thread of relax

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Dating can be stressful. We help each other out when we need help or a different perspective of looking at things. Sometimes we just have to step back from it all and recharge. Physical exertion in martial arts, hitting the weights hard in the gym, running are some of the best ways to cope with stress and have fun. That's why alone time is so important so that we can feel refreshed to face another day.

This thread is for us to reflect on what helps us recharge and feel happy when we're not consumed with the opposite sex. ;)

Here are a few things that relax me:

zen gardens


waterfalls


mountain & lake views


chilling in a hammock (hope to get a man's best friend someday too)


crackle sound of a campfire and staring into the blaze
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
 

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Cool stuff. I like the zen garden. Never tried it but I've always meant to.

I like walking in a Labyrinth too.

http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate-in-a-Labyrinth

I have been able to unlock some of the more hidden creative and intelligent (very hidden) parts of my mind when doing so.
 

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@playa99 - Awesome man. You'll like headspace. My other two favorite meditation apps are "Calm" (subscription based unfortunately) and "Meditation Studio" (free). With headspace, I did that take 10 for 10 days and learned a lot about my thoughts and how to recognize them and clear the mechanism so I can be free from distraction.

@FairShake - Have you heard of Escape Rooms? The girl I've been seeing for two months took me on a surprise date to this venue where you enter a room and have to search for clues within the room to get to the next room and to the finish line in a hour. You have to have teamwork and the ability to problem solve in tandem. You get a walkie talkie and are are allowed to ask the gamemaster for two clues during those 60 minutes. Check Groupon to see if they offer it in your city.
 

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I find sports very relaxing. Whether it be hitting the weights or throwing a football around.

I am going to download the app headspace and see what meditation does for me! I've tried it before but listened to the same meditation's & got bored!
The more consistently you meditate the more easy it is to eliminate/tune out distractive thoughts (boredom). Over time it gets easier and easier to quiet your mind. Repetition.

Set small tangible goals to accomplish everyday in regards to meditation. For example, set aside only FIVE minutes a day to meditate and do it everyday for a week, add two minutes every week.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Chill time with this rain and thunder video (good white noise too, if you need to block out background distractions)...


Waterfall:


Tropical beach:

 
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