Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Bruce Wayne/Batman Method

Fatal Jay

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Was at church service today, my ex gf goes there also, we haven't talked in months. She did the fade away method on me. Instead of the afc move talking to her during church services, I ignore her and leave church as soon as service is over (usually after church, everyone stand and talk). I have lost 30 more pounds since we been dating. Whenever I am there people flock around me and talk to me and I can feel her eyes on me the whole time, I said one word to her today at church during service which was "hey" and continue talking to other people during meet and greet time.

I call this the batman method because, whenever I'm around her presence I do what I need to do, and I am gone, no trying to see what she been up to or anything. I apply this with all women in my life, I do what I need to do with them and then I'm gone, that's what women loved about bruce wayne/batman they don't know what he is doing in his life, they just see what he does, and then he is gone, and I believe women love that, for the fact that so many thoughts are bouncing around in their brain about this man. Things like "who is he dating" "why is he not paying attention to me" " where is he going, is he going to see a girl"?

The bruce wayne/batman method.


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont understand this, you usually talk and people flock around = good!
she shows and you piss off??? you're kicking yourself in the balls here surely?
the bette rmove is to continue to have thme flock around you but keeping a 'polite' distance between you and the ex.
maybe I read it wrong?
 

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This is the typical way men deal with breakups. Can someone explain why women see this as being hostile towards them or even immature? I don't see how doing what you need to do for yourself as anything wrong.
 

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betheman said:
I dont understand this, you usually talk and people flock around = good!
she shows and you piss off??? you're kicking yourself in the balls here surely?
the bette rmove is to continue to have thme flock around you but keeping a 'polite' distance between you and the ex.
maybe I read it wrong?

that's exactly what I do, maybe I didn't speak enough on the meet and greet part of the service is when people flock around me, and I keep a polite distance to her, but today she happened to be right behind me, my seat was behind me, so when I turned around she was there. So I said hey and continued to talk to others.

yyc12 said:
This is the typical way men deal with breakups. Can someone explain why women see this as being hostile towards them or even immature? I don't see how doing what you need to do for yourself as anything wrong.
Women think this is hostile or immature, because your not feeding her ego, you not doing what males in her past have done.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Exactly because if you 100 percent ignore her, that lets her know she got to you.
 
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