"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Bruce Wayne/Batman Method

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Was at church service today, my ex gf goes there also, we haven't talked in months. She did the fade away method on me. Instead of the afc move talking to her during church services, I ignore her and leave church as soon as service is over (usually after church, everyone stand and talk). I have lost 30 more pounds since we been dating. Whenever I am there people flock around me and talk to me and I can feel her eyes on me the whole time, I said one word to her today at church during service which was "hey" and continue talking to other people during meet and greet time.

I call this the batman method because, whenever I'm around her presence I do what I need to do, and I am gone, no trying to see what she been up to or anything. I apply this with all women in my life, I do what I need to do with them and then I'm gone, that's what women loved about bruce wayne/batman they don't know what he is doing in his life, they just see what he does, and then he is gone, and I believe women love that, for the fact that so many thoughts are bouncing around in their brain about this man. Things like "who is he dating" "why is he not paying attention to me" " where is he going, is he going to see a girl"?

The bruce wayne/batman method.


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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I dont understand this, you usually talk and people flock around = good!
she shows and you piss off??? you're kicking yourself in the balls here surely?
the bette rmove is to continue to have thme flock around you but keeping a 'polite' distance between you and the ex.
maybe I read it wrong?
 

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This is the typical way men deal with breakups. Can someone explain why women see this as being hostile towards them or even immature? I don't see how doing what you need to do for yourself as anything wrong.
 

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betheman said:
I dont understand this, you usually talk and people flock around = good!
she shows and you piss off??? you're kicking yourself in the balls here surely?
the bette rmove is to continue to have thme flock around you but keeping a 'polite' distance between you and the ex.
maybe I read it wrong?

that's exactly what I do, maybe I didn't speak enough on the meet and greet part of the service is when people flock around me, and I keep a polite distance to her, but today she happened to be right behind me, my seat was behind me, so when I turned around she was there. So I said hey and continued to talk to others.

yyc12 said:
This is the typical way men deal with breakups. Can someone explain why women see this as being hostile towards them or even immature? I don't see how doing what you need to do for yourself as anything wrong.
Women think this is hostile or immature, because your not feeding her ego, you not doing what males in her past have done.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Exactly because if you 100 percent ignore her, that lets her know she got to you.
 
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